All week I looked and looked for something that goes with this: 
Someone suggested PVC pants but I’ve never worn PVC before. … It’s one of those places where you know you’ll be around the kind of people you’d bring with you if you were going to colonize mars.
Thoughts
Two Halloween Parties
Tales Of Jerk-offery
Tilda wrote about a recent experience of hers that still has my jaw on the floor.
Go ahead and read it. I’ll wait.
…..
Holy shit, right?
Insane!
She has a number of stories like that, all well written and extremely sexy. I highly suggest you read her stuff. All of it.
The very idea that stuff like that happens is so far beyond me. I guarantee the next time I see her I’ll be asking her I’ll be asking a ton of questions.
How does that happen? Do I need to sign up for a club? What god do I have to pray to in order to make that happen? How does a plan like that come together? Was it your ideas or his/theirs?
Reading it I couldn’t help but wonder what it would be like if I were in her shoes (or in her blindfold) and the dudes were replaced by women.
Even if I knew someone who could make something like that happen I don’t know how I’d bring it up in conversation. It would make for an awkward phone call.
“How’s your week been going? Good? Great. So I was wondering if you could setup an gangbang where women would come in and fuck me while I’m blindfolded and use me like a piece of meat. What’s that? Yeah, I’m free on Monday. Should I bring lube or …. Oh, ok, Lube and condoms. Anything else? Sure you can borrow my DVD collection of the BBC’s Office. Yeah, it’s much better than the American version. OK see you at the gangbang.”
I’ve decided to officially add this fantasy to my big mental rolodex of things that I jerk off to.
Why Pay More?
I’ve subscribed to the google calendar of Nycaltevents. There’s TONS of event listings on there and when you combine it with the events list I subscribe to from Conversio Virium, my calendar is filled with kink, poly and swinger events.
I was browsing through and noticed this:
I knew that events at Paddles always ran more for men than women, but I’ve never really understood why.
$5 for women and $25 for men? Guys pay five times more?
Obviously this isn’t the only event that does this. I don’t blame them for doing it. I just don’t understand why. There are plenty of events where women get in free but men need to take out a mortgage, sell some plasma and put your autographed photo of Ted Knight up on ebay.
I’ll miss you Ted.
So why do men have to pay more?
The main argument seems to be that women aren’t willing to pay more but men will. It’s not worth it for women to shell out extra cash.
Why not? There’s kinky stuff going on, don’t women want to be part of it as much as men? Is the desire less? They’re desire to go to an event ends at paying more than five bucks but men have five times the desire so they’ll pay 25?
The other argument is that men won’t show up if women don’t show up. Doesn’t the same logic say that if men don’t show up, then women won’t show up? Besides, when I first moved here I went to Paddles a number of times where it was just me and a bunch of guys standing around despite the discount price for women.
On the other hand I’ll be going to Smack on Friday where everyone pays the same price and there’s usually a 50/50 ratio of men to women. It’s more fetish than BDSM, maybe that’s why more women show up. There’s less sexual stuff going on.
Perhaps it goes back to the age old question: If women are just as into this stuff as men, where are these women? Why are men paying a hundred bucks to get into a swingers event and women can walk in for free? Are the men like myself who want to go to events like these so horrible and disgusting that the only way a woman will go is if she has nothing better to do?
I posed this question via twitter and a few people responded.
“Also, men are more willing to pay for sexual stimulation. More female prostitutes than male. Is it fair? No. But reality.”
“Instead of viewing it as a higher charge, look at it as a discount for women (which is what it is.) Doesn’t help you, tho.”
“Specifically to annoy you. No other reason.”
Maymay gave me some of his wisdom via twitter. “The reason kink/fetish events are cheaper for women is blatantly obvious: sexism. Women are products, men are the consumers.”
Oh how I wish this wasn’t true. If only I were being the one consumed and used like a product.
The Best…
…political ad of the month.
httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qq8Uc5BFogE
Curious Things
I was asked to make a list of the things I’m most curious about. Thing I’ve had on my must-try-before-I-die list.
Chastity- Maymay wrote about his extended chastity here. Obviously my daydreams aren’t nearly as close as what the reality would probably be. I imagine being locked up and taken out whenever she (whoever she is) wants me. More of an anti-masturbation device than a no-orgasm device. Who knows, maybe she’ll want me locked up for longer durations, or maybe not locked up at all.
CBT- I have limited experience in this area but the hints of it that I’ve experienced have been eye opening. Probably because there are a million wonderfully evil things a woman can do in this area. As with all kinds of pain, it’s limited to those who really get off on giving pain. I hate the idea of feeling pain anywhere but I love the idea of taking the pain for someone who gets off on giving it. Everything from sounds, bondage, clamps, clothespins, you name it and I’m curious about it. The mental image of sounds is enough to make me whimper.
Anal play- I’ve experienced strap-on play a few times. A few times isn’t nearly enough. I’ve only experienced the wonders of the prostate once for maybe a minute. My head nearly exploded. There’s also something very intriguing about plugs and hooks. I have no idea what the appeal of anal play is for a dominant woman. Is it the idea of violating a man? I know what the appeal is on my end of things but the motivation for a woman escapes me. If I knew the motivation it might help me find someone to motivate into doing it.
Predicament Bondage- I was talking to someone the other night who mentioned how much she loved doing it to her boyfriend. I hadn’t thought much about it until I saw how much she loved it. Her face lit up with this genuine evil smile. It’s motivated me enough to read more about it and keep my eyes open for someone with an evil smile.
Electrical play- Nuff said. This is a big question mark for me. I’ve heard it can be either very painful or very pleasurable.
Hypnosis- I’ve heard it’s intense.
Owned- I know now that my previous goal (I wrote about it here) of having a weekend where I was totally owned and controlled by someone is totally unrealistic. Finding someone who wants to own me for a few hours might be more attainable.