sex parties

A Year Of Sex With Mia

You may have heard my friend Mia on her kick-ass podcast, or you may have heard her on mine. If you’re like me you’ve wanted more and more of her adventures in the NYC scene. Well wait no more because she’s written a new book A Year Of Sex.

The book chronicles her adventures in the NYC sex party scene.

Originally I was going to include a few excerpts but instead I decided to simply include some of the chapter names:


And that’s not even half of the chapters.

I asked Mia a few questions I knew her fans would be wondering:

-So what made you decide to go from the podcast taking about your exploits to a book writing about them?

It was a slow and somewhat natural process. I started the podcast because I was interested in producing content in a new media format. And I thought I wouldn’t have much to lose if people didn’t like the podcast. Turns out people liked the podcast. So in time, it made sense to create a book to showcase the stories in long form rather than short form.

-Is it weird that I could read it and I’d still hear your voice? it’s like when I read David Sedaris books, I hear his voice in my head when I read it..but instead of him talking about being and Elf at Macy’s it’s you tailing about sex clubs. Oh shit what if when I’m reading your book I accidentally start reading it in David Sedariss voice?? Fuck! Ok any chance you’re going to make an audiobook version so I can read it in your voice too?

My book read by David Sedaris would be something else. I can hear him wincing each time he has to say “pussy” which in my book is a lot. I would love to do an audio book. But I would rather not self-produce it. So if I can get the interest of a willingly party to produce the audiobook, I’m all in. Any takers?

-There’s a lot from your experiences that could be positive lessons for people who are interested in non-monogomy or swinging. Are there any bits of advice you can offer someone wanting to start down the same path that you wish someone had told you before you started?

I did include some tips for entering into non-monogamy and swinging at the end of my book. I think the one that I had wish I had known is to set realistic expectations. Just because you are going to a sex party does not mean you will end up having sex. You may want to, but it may not work out for a variety of reasons.

-How hard was it to narrow down what experiences would make it in the book?

Narrowing down the experiences was to a certain extent easy. Basically this book is a smut book. So what got left out? All the details that aren’t related to sex and relationships in relation to sex. There is little about my work life, my friends, my family, etc. that I won’t bore your readers with that here.

-What’s the biggest difference between a creepy guy at a sex party and a sexy guy at a sex party?

Confidence and ability to read body language and signals.

-For a book about exciting sexual experiences in New York, there are surprisingly little mentions of me in this book. Have you been getting many complaints about that?

You know, I have. And the unfortunate thing is I can’t appease the audience because you and I have what is although a lovely friendship, not a steamy one. Except for that one time……

-Are you planing another book? Perhaps a more unspeakableaxe-centric one?

Actually this is a great idea. I would like to fancy myself a journalist and write about you and the lovely Sade.

It was so nice of Mia’s agents, handlers, management and personal security to let me have a few moments of her time to get those questions in.

She also has a whole chapter on “Sex Partying with Success”.

Just one of the many many tips: “As a general rule, don’t touch without asking first, unless suggestive eye contact has been made. In an orgy situation, you can’t always have the negotiation conver- sation about what is allowed, so start slow. Stroke the palm, arm, or head of the person you are looking to get involved with. Don’t go directly for their privates.”

And as an extra super bonus, you’ll get her “Sex Partying with Style: Mia’s Playlist”

The book is available on Nook, Kindle, Ibooks, you name it.

Pick it up here (you’ll also find a preview of the book).

What are you doing still reading this? Go get the book!

My First Gangbang Part 2

She had me bent over a spanking bench, whispered to me something hot, sexy and loving and then slid her strap-on inside.

I was so nervous that it was difficult to relax and it hurt a bit.   She distracted me by pulling my hair, whispering to me, spanking me and saying things that put me into a deeper mental subspace.

She went slowly at first, gliding herself in and making me open up to her, then she picked up the pace.

“Fuck his mouth”, I heard her say and the next thing I knew there was another woman in front of me wearing one of Sade’s harnessed cocks and shoving it into my mouth.

I’m not used to that and I started to gag when she put it in too deeply.  I was in such a deep mental submissive space that I couldn’t make a decision to say “please go slower” but thankfully the woman in front of me knew exactly what to do and went slower.

Eventually my owner pulled out and asked the woman in front of me if she was ready to fuck me, seconds later she was sliding into me while Sade stroked my hair, scratched my back and kissed me, telling me how hot it all was.

My head was turned to the wall and I couldn’t see the others in the room but every now and then I would hear someone passing by and making a comment about what they were seeing.  I’d hear a “Woah!” or a “Yeah!” followed by a comment that I could never hear.

The second woman grabbed me by the hips and started thrusting me at a good pace, spanking me every now again as she buried herself into me. All I could do is moan with every thrust.

I vaguely remember that it still hurt a bit but not so much that I wanted it to stop.

“Every woman at the party has come into the room just to watch you get fucked”, Sade whispered.

All I could do was moan back.

After the 2nd woman was done with me another took her place.   She fucked me a bit slower at first, reaching under me and grabbing my balls.  I wasn’t sure if this was more than what Sade wanted and I remember moaning something about what she was doing only to hear her say “It’s ok, I’ll allow it”.

There were a number of times throughout the night where I could feel the women hitting my prostate, brining me so close to orgasm.   It was jus another thing adding to my mind going deeper and deeper..

I have no idea how long the 3rd woman fucked me (I couldn’t see their faces) .  It all melts together, eventually another took her place and fucked me for a bit longer, then another.  Eventually Sade had me lay on my back so she could  fuck me again.  She wanted to be the first and last inside me.  She kissed me deeply as she fucked me for another ten minutes ending with her slapping me on my ass and sending me to the bathroom to put my clothes back on.

We walked thorough the party as we headed through the door.  We said our goodbyes and I couldn’t help but wonder who had just fucked me.  I think Sade liked the fact that I didn’t know.   Ok…I know she liked that fact.

All the way home I still couldn’t believe what had just happened.  I had been so nervous that I wasn’t able to relax completely so it hurt a bit more than normal but it was still hotter than fuck.   I’m still turned on about it as I write about it.

If there’s a next time, I won’t be so nervous

Found Femdom And A New Podcast

I’m really running low on Found Femdom images, feel free to link or email me more when you see ’em.


I like this one because it’s simple and sexy. Makes me wonder what the story is here. Did he just help her up? Is he about to help her down?

The one part I’m unsure of is wether or not she’s looking at him with distain, lust or apathy.

As for the podcast, I have to say I’m really really enjoying recording these. I’m actually kinda proud at how people have reacted to them. Thanks to everyone who’s donating to keep the bandwidth costs covered and everyone who keeps spreading the word.

Mia, from the I Want Your Sex podcast, talks about her good and bad experiences in going to sex parties, the things she’s into that she doesn’t podcast about, homophobia and advice to those who are curious in going to sex parties.

I’ll admit, this episode does get a bit self-serving at times since sex parties have been a long-time curiosity of mine as you know.

Download Mia’s podcast at or on iTunes.

Listen to the podcast here, or subscribe in iTunes by clicking the link below.

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Why Pay More?

I’ve subscribed to the google calendar of Nycaltevents. There’s TONS of event listings on there and when you combine it with the events list I subscribe to from Conversio Virium, my calendar is filled with kink, poly and swinger events.

I was browsing through and noticed this:


I knew that events at Paddles always ran more for men than women, but I’ve never really understood why.

$5 for women and $25 for men? Guys pay five times more?

Obviously this isn’t the only event that does this. I don’t blame them for doing it. I just don’t understand why. There are plenty of events where women get in free but men need to take out a mortgage, sell some plasma and put your autographed photo of Ted Knight up on ebay.


I’ll miss you Ted.

So why do men have to pay more?

The main argument seems to be that women aren’t willing to pay more but men will. It’s not worth it for women to shell out extra cash.

Why not? There’s kinky stuff going on, don’t women want to be part of it as much as men? Is the desire less? They’re desire to go to an event ends at paying more than five bucks but men have five times the desire so they’ll pay 25?

The other argument is that men won’t show up if women don’t show up. Doesn’t the same logic say that if men don’t show up, then women won’t show up? Besides, when I first moved here I went to Paddles a number of times where it was just me and a bunch of guys standing around despite the discount price for women.

On the other hand I’ll be going to Smack on Friday where everyone pays the same price and there’s usually a 50/50 ratio of men to women. It’s more fetish than BDSM, maybe that’s why more women show up. There’s less sexual stuff going on.

Perhaps it goes back to the age old question: If women are just as into this stuff as men, where are these women? Why are men paying a hundred bucks to get into a swingers event and women can walk in for free? Are the men like myself who want to go to events like these so horrible and disgusting that the only way a woman will go is if she has nothing better to do?

I posed this question via twitter and a few people responded.

“Also, men are more willing to pay for sexual stimulation. More female prostitutes than male. Is it fair? No. But reality.”

“Instead of viewing it as a higher charge, look at it as a discount for women (which is what it is.) Doesn’t help you, tho.”

“Specifically to annoy you. No other reason.”

Maymay gave me some of his wisdom via twitter. “The reason kink/fetish events are cheaper for women is blatantly obvious: sexism. Women are products, men are the consumers.”

Oh how I wish this wasn’t true. If only I were being the one consumed and used like a product.

How To Find New York’s Sexy Underbelly

Forgive me, there’s no point to this post, just thinking.

I read websites like Debauchette, Sexegesis, A Bad Man, Jefferson, Dominatrix Next Door, and countless others based in New York.

I wonder how it’s possible that I live in the same city they do.

Sex parties? Are you shitting me? Really? In the same time-zone as me?

Reading these blogs it seems that finding wild crazy sex just falls into the laps (literally) of some people in the city.

It’s not just the bloggers of course. I have a number of friends who would probably blog but they don’t have time to since they’re too busy having wild amazing sex.

Maybe the problem is that I’m trying too hard?

Many continue to try craigslist. I’ve gone to but maybe I need to try

Nope. Nothing there.

It’s not jealousy really, it’s more “hey guys can I come too?”

Ok wait. I have been to one sex party.

That’s a story for later in the week though.