You may have heard my friend Mia on her kick-ass podcast, or you may have heard her on mine. If you’re like me you’ve wanted more and more of her adventures in the NYC scene. Well wait no more because she’s written a new book A Year Of Sex.
The book chronicles her adventures in the NYC sex party scene.
Originally I was going to include a few excerpts but instead I decided to simply include some of the chapter names:
And that’s not even half of the chapters.
I asked Mia a few questions I knew her fans would be wondering:
-So what made you decide to go from the podcast taking about your exploits to a book writing about them?
It was a slow and somewhat natural process. I started the podcast because I was interested in producing content in a new media format. And I thought I wouldn’t have much to lose if people didn’t like the podcast. Turns out people liked the podcast. So in time, it made sense to create a book to showcase the stories in long form rather than short form.
-Is it weird that I could read it and I’d still hear your voice? it’s like when I read David Sedaris books, I hear his voice in my head when I read it..but instead of him talking about being and Elf at Macy’s it’s you tailing about sex clubs. Oh shit what if when I’m reading your book I accidentally start reading it in David Sedariss voice?? Fuck! Ok any chance you’re going to make an audiobook version so I can read it in your voice too?
-There’s a lot from your experiences that could be positive lessons for people who are interested in non-monogomy or swinging. Are there any bits of advice you can offer someone wanting to start down the same path that you wish someone had told you before you started?
I did include some tips for entering into non-monogamy and swinging at the end of my book. I think the one that I had wish I had known is to set realistic expectations. Just because you are going to a sex party does not mean you will end up having sex. You may want to, but it may not work out for a variety of reasons.
-How hard was it to narrow down what experiences would make it in the book?
Narrowing down the experiences was to a certain extent easy. Basically this book is a smut book. So what got left out? All the details that aren’t related to sex and relationships in relation to sex. There is little about my work life, my friends, my family, etc. that I won’t bore your readers with that here.
-What’s the biggest difference between a creepy guy at a sex party and a sexy guy at a sex party?
Confidence and ability to read body language and signals.
-For a book about exciting sexual experiences in New York, there are surprisingly little mentions of me in this book. Have you been getting many complaints about that?
You know, I have. And the unfortunate thing is I can’t appease the audience because you and I have what is although a lovely friendship, not a steamy one. Except for that one time……
-Are you planing another book? Perhaps a more unspeakableaxe-centric one?
Actually this is a great idea. I would like to fancy myself a journalist and write about you and the lovely Sade.
It was so nice of Mia’s agents, handlers, management and personal security to let me have a few moments of her time to get those questions in.
She also has a whole chapter on “Sex Partying with Success”.
Just one of the many many tips: “As a general rule, don’t touch without asking first, unless suggestive eye contact has been made. In an orgy situation, you can’t always have the negotiation conver- sation about what is allowed, so start slow. Stroke the palm, arm, or head of the person you are looking to get involved with. Don’t go directly for their privates.”
And as an extra super bonus, you’ll get her “Sex Partying with Style: Mia’s Playlist”
The book is available on Nook, Kindle, Ibooks, you name it.
Pick it up here (you’ll also find a preview of the book).
What are you doing still reading this? Go get the book!