The pain rushes in and it forces my arms to lift my body off the ground, my feet tied wide and barely touching the floor.

She wants to hear me growl and I know I’m almost there. It’s not something I can just turn on though, it’s a place she needs to take me to. Playing in public makes it harder and easier to go there. Harder because I know others are watching but easier because I know the neighbors won’t hear. It’s a wash really and it doesn’t matter because I don’t have a choice.

Again and again she hits me and I’m at the point where time stops and all there is is pain My head feels warm and I don’t think this pain will ever stop and I’m not sure if I want it do.

There’s nothing for me to think about when she takes me here, my brain stops thinking of five thousand things at once like it usually does, it stops thinking entirely and I just exist.

For a moment she’s gone and changes implements. It gives me time to catch my breath. I wonder if anyone is watching us and I catch a glimpse of a guy out of my left eye, I turn my head away from him and she continues.

For a brief moment she stops everything to kiss me. It’s such a dramatic change from the passion of the pain to something more physically carnal. Then she goes back to beating me. I can feel a tear welling up. It’s not the pain but the dramatic change between the kiss and the pain and back to a kiss again. I don’t know how to process it and I can feel myself whimper.

I’m close to breaking completely and she stops. She strokes my back and it burns. She lets me down and I fall to the floor on my knees in front of her. She stands and holds my head close to her. I feel the warmth of her legs and I love her so much.

Must See: A Cleansing and Healing Ritual With Eric Pride

I’ve mentioned Eric Pride’s classes and workshops in the past, I really can’t say enough good stuff about the guy or the workshops he runs. Eric was instrumental in helping me get acclimated to the NYC scene and frankly I wouldn’t be in a successful D/s relationship had I not been lucky enough to meet him. So once again I wanted to give you a head’s up on another great workshop with Eric coming up December 9th.

A Cleansing and Healing Ritual (Link to the Fetlife Page or register directly here )

Sunday, December 09, 2012 · 3:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Location: Manhattan Society for Alternative Sexual Expression (location sent upon registration)
New York 10009 @ map
Cost: $20
Dress code: Comfortable Clothing
An event brought to you by Manhattan Society for Alternative Sexual Expression & NYC Kinky Living…

Do you have D/s, M/s or other lifestyle experiences that have left you with some kind of spiritual or emotional baggage that you just could not shake off?

Rituals can provide a safe tool to deal with painful memories and experiences, and initiate change to promote healing. In this workshop you will learn the building blocks to these types of rituals, how to plan for and conduct them in a safe and positive way. You will also participate in an actual ritual that supports your personal and spiritual growth in the lifestyle.

Note: This workshop may evoke strong emotional experiences and memories. Please carefully consider this before participating. Due to the intimate nature of this workshop, it is limited to 12 participants. All who attend must actively participate.

More info on the event can be found on the Fetlife Page or register for the event here.

D/s Lifestyle Workshop May 28th-29th

My friends Eric Pride and Sir Sir Stephen are putting on another great event for those of you who are interested in either starting or enhancing a D/s relationship.

It’s a two-day event that is being offered at cost. Any profits will be donated to lifestyle organizations and causes.   It’ll be held in the ever-awesome Glint Studio (location sent upon registration), If you haven’t seen the Glint Studio yet you don’t know what you’re missing.

They’re packing a lot of information in just two days and there’s limited space so you really should get your tickets ASAP. Details below:

Creating and Living Positive BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships – A Special Weekend Workshop in New York City, May 28-29, 2011

This two-day workshop is for individuals, couples and families who identify with a kinky or BDSM lifestyle and desire to incorporate it into their daily lives – irrespective of gender identity, sexuality or kink interests. It is intended for anyone who wants to start a new relationship, take an existing one to the next level, or simply wants to learn more about alternative lifestyle relationships.
Major topics include:
  • Finding unique and exciting partners; establishing “strong-bond” relationship habits
  • Identifying the particular advantages/responsibilities that lead to the greatest likelihood of long-term success
  • Maintaining and deepening mutual interest in your current healthy lifestyle relationships using BDSM, sex, and kink
  • Utilizing effective communication tools and skills to address problem resolution, powerful emotions and other complicated BDSM-related concerns as they arise
The series culminates with a “without-a-safety-net” Q&A panel discussion featuring several proven lifestyle couples/families in various relationship structures. For detailed workshop schedule, see below.
Location sent upon registration (in New York City)
Saturday, May 28, from 10 AM to 5:30 PM
Sunday, May 29, from 10 AM to 3 PM
Participants are also invited to attend a private play party on Saturday evening from 7 PM
$95 (early registration discount – you need to register before May 1); $120 (from May 1). Class size is limited… early registration is strongly recommended.

To register click here

The registration fee includes meals (lunches and refreshments on Saturday and Sunday), detailed workshop handouts and workbooks, and the private play party on Saturday evening.
This workshop series is brought to New York City by Eric Pride (click for bio) and Sir Stephen (click for bio), both having their own unique lifestyle households. The event is hosted by GLINT Studio and NYC Kinky Living.
The workshop was first offered as a weekend series throughout October last year in New York City. It was well-attended and received great reviews by Time Out New York (click for article) and workshop participants:
“Within the same week of attending the class with my partner, I noticed many of our issues resolving in a non-confrontational manner…”
“After a very informative class, right at the end Sir Stephen made a final comment that was very insightful for me dealing with my “relationship status”. It was something I had been struggling to find the words for, but his knowledgeable point of view and real life practices made things fall into place.”
“I changed my weekend plans just so I could attend the next lecture!”
Workshop Schedule
Saturday (10A M – 5:30 PM)
  • Crucial First Steps: Creating Foundations for Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships
  • Turning the “Magic Key”: Maintaining Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships and Putting It All Together
  • Q&A
Sunday (10 AM – 3:00 PM)
  • Not Just Roses: Successful Problem Resolution in BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships
  • Panel Discussion: BDSM Lifestyle Couples Share Their Relationship Experiences
  • Q&A
Classes do not follow the traditional lecture style format. Instead, they are highly interactive and hands-on. Both days allow plenty of time for Q&A. Participants receive detailed course materials and workbooks.
For detailed descriptions of each topic see below.
Crucial First Steps: Establishing & Creating Foundations for Healthy BDSM Lifestyle RelationshipsThis class provides participants with practical information, skills and tools that contribute to establishing and creating BDSM lifestyle relationships with the greatest likelihood of long-term success. We will discuss topics such as:
  • How to begin a relationship (dating)
  • How to build a relationship in ways that will provide the greatest likelihood of long-term success
  • Identifying those elements which make lifestyle relationships unique
  • Distinctive advantages – and responsibilities – that accrue to lifestyle relationships
  • Basic safety issues of the lifestyle
Turning the “Magic Key”: Maintaining Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships
How do we keep the “magic” in our relationships long-term? What tools are available to assist in the maintenance and deepening of healthy and productive lifestyle relationships? In this class we explore and examine techniques and tools that can be used to maintain successful lifestyle relationships over time. This class will cover topics such as:
  • Establishing and refining communication skills
  • How to further deepen our relationships
  • How to keep them fresh and interesting
  • How to fulfill our and our partner(s) sexual, BDSM and kinky needs
Not Just Roses: Successful Problem Resolution in BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships
How do our alternative relationships differ & compare to “vanilla” ones? Everyday relationships are hard enough to navigate, when you add kink into the mix, it can become more complicated.
This class examines the pitfalls (and solutions) that can occur in BDSM and other kinky relationships. We develop and discuss effective ways in which to address and resolve relationship problems, including topics such as:
  • Dealing with and addressing emotions
  • Steps to successful problem resolution
  • Common issues and problems in alternative and BDSM lifestyle relationships
  • Relationship “contracts”
  • Open, multilateral, and poly relationships
  • How to deal with jealousy
Whether you are currently in or desire to be in a relationship, this class can help you build and maintain happy and long-term bonds.
Panel Discussion: BDSM Lifestyle Couples Share Their Relationship Experiences
The panel discussion aims to explore, compare and contrast the BDSM lifestyle relationships such as Daddy/girl, Mommy/girl, Daddy/boy, D/s and M/s, poly and “weekend warriors”. It will be a unique opportunity to learn from the couples/families represented on the panel as they openly – and without safety net – share their experiences and talk about:
  • How they built and deepened their relationships
  • Their most useful tools for maintaining their relationships
  • Their kinks, BDSM and sexual interaction
  • How they worked their way through difficulties in their relationships
  • . . . and much more!



Kinky Classes With Sade

Sade has been teaching quite a bit lately.  Most of her classes lately are one-on-one lessons for couples and individuals who want a good intro to kink or who want to up their game and expand their skill-set.

Well she’s doing a special class on March 1st for a small group of people and if you or someone you know would like to join in on the action the details are below:

Sexy, Kinky, Safe, & Skilled
An intro class to BDSM and Kink
taught by Ms Sade Ami

for Dominant Women and Women who Switch
All Sexual Orientations Welcome
Saturday 19th of March at 1pm

$130/ per student
Advance registration required.
Purchase tickets at

This is a gentle introduction to bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, and fetishism for women who wish to pursue their desires in kink with confidence and skill.  The class size is limited to 8 participants to ensure that your interests are addressed with thorough attention.

Topics include:
– Understanding your own dominance.
– Safety and preparation. Learn how to prepare for the scene you desire and how to play within reasonable limits for mental and physical well being.
– Risk Aware Consensual Kink and Safe, Sane, and Consensual.
– Negotiations and communicating with your partner.  Learn how to honestly assess your own and your partner’s desires for mutual fulfillment, as well as to stay connected throughout the scene.
– Basics of safe bondage and light SM: simple rope bondage workshop and discussion/demonstration of light sensation play, what it means to “warm up” the body.
– Aftercare: how to decompress after play to ensure emotional and physical care.

Please be ready to discuss your interests and questions in an intimate setting with other women of like mind and to respect privacy and discretion.  No cell phone use will be allowed during class.  Class will be approximately 3 hours.

Inquiries can be made to:
[email protected]

Ms Sade Ami is a New York City based Mistress and Kink Educator, who provides private sessions and personalized tutorials. Classes use a hands on approach and are focused on a growing understanding of one’s own proclivities. Participants also learn the technical skills to conduct simple to elaborate play scenes safely and with growing ease.


We had planned to go to the event a week or so beforehand, but this time she said there would be a bit of a twist.  She wanted us to wear masks the entire time and not be our usual social selves.  Between the two of us we know a decent number of people at public events so we usually spend a majority of the time socializing rather than playing.

This time was going to be different.  This time she only wanted to play.

We hopped off the subway and when we were about a block away we slipped our masks on.  Both masks covered our faces enough that it would be nearly impossible to tell who we were less you knew our eyes and lips terribly well.

A few people looked, trying to scope us out as we walked through to the back.  One close friend of ours recognized us right away but She put her finger to her lips and with a wink the friend knew that we weren’t there to visit. Maybe they recognized one of the items she was wearing– or as I suspect they might have recognized the glint in her eyes.

We found a spot next to the dance floor. Most events in New York take place in bars that have been temporarily converted to a kinky space.  You’ll see a spanking bench in the middle of a dance floor, a St Andrews cross next to the bar and other varieties of kinky equipment here and there, but, for the most part- it’s still a bar. We were there for only a few minutes when she motioned for me to climb over her knee before proceeding to give me the single longest spanking of my life.

Two relentless hours shifting rhythmically between stinging open palms and brutal paddles.  Most of the time was spent over her knee, but now and then she’d force me to wobbly feet, bracing me against the bench or the wall-whichever position of supplication currently amused her most.

It was never ending.  People milled around us was in awe, murmuring their appreciation while a few people approached to offer her fresh glasses of ice water (maybe they were worried she’d get thirsty and stop– or maybe they were hoping they could be next on the receiving end of her hand). At times it would get so intense that my knees would buckle and I’d fall to the floor.  She’d give me a few minutes to recover but it wouldn’t be long before she’d put me back in whatever position she wanted me in.

By the end I was incoherent, drooling, and raw.  She held me until I was able to stand up and limp out the door.  I checked the time and it had been over two hours since we arrived. Two long hours getting my ass beat. Only a few minutes had been spent doing anything but.

She was a machine and my ass was tender for days afterwards.

The next day a friend emailed me asking me why we didn’t go to the party.   I told her we were too busy.

Maybe we’ll bring out the masks again someday soon.