Thoughts

Twice In One Week

· April 28, 2009 · Thoughts · , · One Comment

Thank you to everyone who’s donated to the podcast and raised enough money for me to buy a new microphone stand.

Two new podcasts for your listening enjoyment in one week!

I know! I’ve been a busy boy. Recording at least one conversation per week this month.

First was my conversation with Maymay about KinkForAll. We talk about the problems with other events out there and how you can help.

The second podcast was with my friend Joan. We talk about what it’s like being a switch, why women are better submissives than men, why feminism has made it harder to meet a dominant guy and much more.

Listen on the Masocast website or subscribe in iTunes. Masocast - Masocast - Masocast

Please please please email me with any suggestions you have on how to improve it.

Rope Dummy

· April 23, 2009 · Thoughts · , · 5 Comments

My best friend ties me up as her test dummy.

I have another friend who will use me in this way as well. I’m someone to practice on before a big date or just to hone their skills.

My best friend, BondageFreaky does it more often. She’ll usually walk up to me while she’s got a look on her face as though she’s deep in thought. I know she’s got a new bondage position in mind. Something she hasn’t tried before or something she wants to perfect.

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It’s brings us closer together as friends. She gets practice in rope and I get to give her feedback on what feels better or what hurts more. If there’s one area of my body losing circulation or another in a position that can’t be held for long durations.

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Sometimes I get into the zone, similar to how I feel at the end of a long yoga session. If the position is taxing I’ll find myself collapsing onto the couch or in a big chair while she has a smile on her face knowing she tested me.

It’s nice to experience rope for the sake of rope. It’s nice to be experimented on and also see how much fun she’s having as the rope goes flying. I like being able to offer suggestions on improving a position, knowing that when she ties up a submissive later, they’ll both have more fun because of my feedback.

She comes up with some of the most unique and evil positions I’ve ever seen. I’m trying to convince her to start photographing them more often.

How she sometimes improvises something that turns out to be both constrictive and visually appealing always a surprises to me.

I’m a pretty lucky guy, being able to get my rope fix while helping a friend at the same time.

Makes Me Sound Lame

· April 19, 2009 · Thoughts · · 24 Comments

As time goes by I’m finding myself thinking those dreadful words that turn so many dominant women off:

“I just want to please you”.

Why are they dreadful? Because it sounds as though I don’t have a backbone. As though I’ll just take whatever I can get. Like I don’t have any needs.

Granted, I’m not thinking that if I meet someone at a party and she wants to tie me up or whip my back, that’s different. But if there’s a connection, I just want to please.

While there are still many many things on my pervy list of curiosities but I’m finding myself not caring as much about that list as long as the dominant is getting off.

Maybe it’s because my recent experiences have had a closer mental and emotional connection or maybe it’s just what happens when you’re with someone for more than just a few play-dates.

I find myself looking forward to the connection just as much as I’m looking forward to getting beaten or fucked or bound. Even those times when there’s little BDSM stuff involved.

I’m finding that giving myself to someone for whatever is on their kinky list, to be just as (or more) powerful than getting whatever I’m hoping for. When I give myself over to whatever she has in mind, it never feels like anything is missing. In the past I’d always hope for something specific and it was great when it happened but kinda “eh” when it didn’t.

Leading up to it I have lots and lots of dirty thoughts and hopes of what will happen. When the moment arrives however I’m a big blank slate. I want to say “just do whatever you want, I don’t care what, just do it.”

I’m also finding myself willing or even wanting to do things I normally wouldn’t just to please the other person. I find myself wanting to go further..deeper.

Being open.

Just enjoying the moment.

“Right now, at this moment, I am yours. I just want to make you smile.”   

I think it, but I don’t say it.   

Because it makes me sound lame.

Unspoken

· April 16, 2009 · Thoughts · 2 Comments

I placed the microphone on the table between us. Just a few minutes earlier I had made her breakfast and I needed to move the OJ and coffee just to make sure I didn’t spill on my fancy new microphone. She has a way of making me jump and spill things.

I setup my laptop to record and tried to act as casual as possible. It’s always hard to act casual around her. There’s never a moment where I don’t want my mouth on her skin. That makes it hard to act casually.

I briefly thought of some of the topics I wanted to cover. I never plan for these things. Being spontaneous makes things sound more natural. Besides, I could always edit out any lame jokes…ok most of my lame jokes…at another time.

We sat across from each-other as we spoke.   There were a number of times I wanted to ask her questions that wouldn’t be appropriate to broadcast.

“How much fun was that..that stuff we just did this morning”.

“Have you always been a cuddlier?”

“Is there something you do to make your skin so soft and kissable?”

“Does your hand hurt?? Because my butt is still a little tender.”

“May I just go under the table and go down on you while you talk? My mouth could be put to so much better use than asking questions.”

I didn’t ask any of course. I didn’t need to. She knew what I was thinking anyway.

Don’t Put Up With That Shit

· April 7, 2009 · Thoughts · , , · 18 Comments

A friend of mine has been having problems with a submissive guy she’s been playing with. Most of their sex has been leaning toward vanilla lately. Not because she’s not in the mood, it’s because he’s not in the mood.

He just hasn’t felt very submissive lately.

I’ve heard this complaint from a number of women. Fun stuff they used to do has been pushed aside and now the guy’s just interested in having his orgasm and going to bed.

She told me her initial reaction was to put him in chastity to make him more agreeable but he declined. Now she’s feeling less dominant and more antsy to get the kind of kink she wants.

I’m not blaming the guy (well maybe a little), who really knows what’s going on in his head. Maybe he has other things going on in his life that are putting a damper on his submissive side and he needs to focus on that or maybe he’s just a douche who told her he wanted the same kinky stuff she wanted just so he could get inside her pants.

My advice to her was to go find it somewhere else. If she sat down and had the conversation with him and their desires didn’t match, she should just yell “Next!” and meet up with one of the other hundred thousand guys who’d love to get beaten, tied up, fucked and who knows what.

There’s no reason for any woman to put up with not getting her sexual needs met. I don’t care of she’s dominant, submissive or vanilla. If you’re not getting fucked the way you want then maybe you need to add another guy or girl or two or three to the mix until you are getting everything you want.

If there’s something you’re into and your current guy isn’t doing it for you, just pop and ad on craiglist and within minutes you’ll hundreds of guys replying. Sure not all of them are what you’re looking for but you’ll at least see one or two in there.   

And don’t pay any attention to what guys actually say on their first email to you. They’re not actually thinking when they write these things. The emails that appear intelligent were probably written months ago and they’re just copying and pasting. Besides, don’t you want a guy who’s desperate to please you and give you what you want? After all, you met this other guy who’s not so desperate and look where that’s gotten you. You’re placing an ad on craigslist.

If you find them attractive (photos, not words) then reply and set the tone in your response. He’ll probably be so shocked that you actually replied that he’ll probably be willing to give you his social security number at that point. Hell even I’m willing to give you some of the numbers in mine right now: 078. See! And I haven’t even met you yet.

As long as the guy doesn’t come across as a total nutjob then meet him for a drink, you’ll be able to tell within minutes. If you’re not into him then go meet numbers 2 through 8438349 who emailed you.

Women who want hot crazy sex are too rare to waste their time on a guy who won’t give it to them.

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