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Sugasm #109

· December 10, 2007 · Thoughts · One Comment

This Week’s Picks

Body Image In Art, Porn & Media
“Imposing it upon myself, or accepting that someone else has the right to impose it upon me, is something I can refuse to do.”

The Importance of Getting Tested for Sexually Transmitted Infections
“I am taking care of myself. I wish they would do the same.”

When Natural Doesn’t Feel Natural at All
“I’d kept mine neatly trimmed for so long, then cleanly shaved, that I couldn’t remember what I look like in full and natural form.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Pic(k) of the Day

Editor’s Choice
Darkroom Fantasy

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MILF Barbie
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O
The Other Side Of The Table – Part 4
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An Erotic Picnic
Goody Fellatrix
I’m TOO submissive
My Play Piercing Video
Soulmates Reunited
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Webcamming, Bondage, and Amateur Porn…

Somewhere….

· December 8, 2007 · Thoughts · 2 Comments

She was a pro but open to a relationship with a sub.

 

I had emailed her on Alt and we buit a rapport over a few days. .

 

We talked for a bit and she expressed interest in meeting me for dinner.

 

I was flattered and aggreed to meet her.

 

“How much can you pay?” she asked.

 

“What? Nothing. I don’t pay for play so why would I pay to meet?”.

 

I almost sounded dominant. She knew that I wasn’t looking for that, why would she even suggest it?

 

“Really? Ok well maybe we can just be friends then. You’re cute so I’ll let you meet me for free and maybe you can clean my apartment.”

 

I was glad we were on the phone, otherwise she would have seen me roll my eyes at her.

 

We met tonight (yes I know, I know. Obviously she’s not what I’m looking for yet I go anyway….)

 

She’s certainly attractive but much older than what she claimed to be. I imagined she was probably 15 years older than me.

 

Her first questions were all about BDSM and my level of experience.

 

She was surprised at my advanced level of certain areas such as service, caning and such, but even more surprised at my lack of experience in areas like CBT and chastity.

 

“Maybe you could go to a few Pro-Dommes and one will want a relationship with you after a few sessions”.

 

 

“I couldn’t afford that financially or emotionally”.

 

 

We talked a bit more and then she said it:

 

 

“Would you like to come back to my place and play for a few hours?”

 

 

I don’t know what it was, the age difference, the fact that I really didn’t feel submissive to her, or perhaps the fact that trying to talk to her was almost painful.

 

If I were Comic-book-guy I’d say: “Worst conversationalist ever”

 

 

“I really can’t tonight. Let’s keep in touch though and we can see what happens, if nothing else it would be nice to have a new friend.”

 

 

She was not used to men saying “no” to her but she understood and we parted ways.

 

 

Walking to the nearest 2/3 station there was a man standing alone paying his trumpet.

 

 

Playing this song.

 

 

Somewhere

 

 

I imagined what that song means.

 

 

 

Too romantic and cheesy??

 

Possibly

 

 

But it did make me smile.

 

Sex WIth Vanilla Women

· December 5, 2007 · Thoughts · , · 8 Comments

I didn’t want to come right out and declare my submission, instead I just said “I prefer to be…..a giver.”

… I told her the story and she kept pressing about the kinkiest thing I’ve ever done.

Sugasm #108

· December 5, 2007 · Thoughts · · No Comments

This Week’s Picks
From virgin cocksucker to blowjob queen
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Old Friends
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Domme-dar, Slave-dar and Black Rose

· December 3, 2007 · Thoughts · , , · 8 Comments

A friend and I attended Black Rose in DC this weekend.

I’ve been to other events similar to BR but this is by far the best I’ve been to yet. Of course it helps that I attended with one of my best friends.

The classes were well organized, the hotel was great but a bit expensive (Note to self: stay at the hotel across the street next year and save some coin) and the people were amazing.

I did enjoy a bit of complex rope bondage thanks to the friend I went with. There was an attendee area to their website and Viviane had suggested I put something down on my profile to indicate I was dying to be beaten until I collapse.

I did post it.

I didn’t get one.

Someone owes me a good beating.

Our biggest disappointment was that we were only there for just over one day. To get the full benefit I think one needs to be able to stay for the entire event.

We met a few friends for dinner and the subject came up of Domme-dar, the ability to detect someone who is dominant.

A dominant at the table said she has slave-dar, service-dar and a few others as well.

For me it’s very obvious when I detect it. Of course there are plenty that I don’t detect but when it’s there…it’s REALLY there.

It could be the way she walks, carries herself, talks, looks at me or just her overall vibe.

I usually get weak in the knees (possibly due to a desire to be on them), find myself either at a loss for words or having way too many of them, heavy breathing, extreme fidgeting, occasionally whimpering and I’ve been told I get a look in my eyes. Similar to puppy dog eyes but more…wanting.

When I’m around a woman that pops up on my Domme-dar I don’t necessarily have sexual thoughts, it’s more of a feeling of helplessness. Helpless because I desperately want to do something for her to please her.

Perhaps it’s that desperation that turns them off.

I have no problems meeting or sleeping with vanilla women because for the most part, I have no interest in them. I’m my normal confident funny self and only see them as possible friends. I can’t imagine anything more than short-term sexual buddies (if that) because I know what I want long-term. It’s funny how that works.

Maybe if I knew what makes me pop up on the slave-dar, I could prevent those qualities from coming through.

Or maybe it’s the tight leather pants that clues them in.

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