Hey, I have needs too!!
Occasionally I will have a casual fling with a vanilla woman (sometimes it’s better than nothing). I’m trying to stay away from doing it since it rarely ends well. Either they are freaked out if they start developing feelings for me, or they think they can try and be dominant only to feel bad when they realize they don’t have it in them.
I met her through a friend. We had a natural rapport and were constantly flirting with one another.
We met for brunch one day and she brought up the ever-lovin’ topic of sex.
She talked about some of her bad experiences and a few good ones. I didn’t want to come right out and declare my submission, instead I just said “I prefer to be…..a giver.”
Her eyebrows raised a bit and we had a few too many bloody marys.
“I’ll bet I’m kinkier than you” she declared.
“Ummm I doubt that”.
“Oh really? What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?” she asked.
“You first”, I didn’t want to throw out something that would freak her out.
“I had a threesome once” she said with pride.
“Please, I lost my virginity in a threesome.”
She just stared at me
I told her the story of how it happened and she kept pressing about the kinkiest thing I’ve ever done.
I avoided the question and we talked about our favorite things.
Mine was giving oral (ok it still is) and hers was as well.
Damn, I had hoped she would have said receiving oral was her favorite.
I should pause here for a second and say that, while I, like any guy, love receiving oral. It’s very rare that I can orgasm from it. It could be a psychological thing, I feel much more comfortable giving pleasure than getting it. There are only one or two ways I can almost guarantee an orgasm from oral sex and I had a feeling she wasn’t experienced in either of them.
Anyway, we ended up going back to her place and having a very passionate romp. We did this a few times over the next few weeks and it was clear she was interested in more than just casual.
“Well….there’s something you should know about me” I said.
I proceeded to tell her about what I was looking for and at first she was thrown back. Then she said I needed to go to a therapist, that it wasn’t natural. I was sick.
I explained that it was no different from her enjoying a little spanking when fucking doggy style. It’s just a matter of degree.
She wouldn’t even listen.
Days later she emailed me saying that she had done some reading on the subject, that she wished she could be dominant for me but she just couldn’t.
She wished I had told her the kinkiest think I had ever done on that day over brunch.
On the bright side, receiving oral sex is now her favorite thing.