Thoughts

Reader Suggestion: Go Gay

· May 22, 2008 · Thoughts · · 8 Comments

I’m always thankful when I get helpful advice from someone. Most of the time the advice is helpful, other times:

“I’m a bisexual sub in Manhattan. The gay scene is a total 180 from the hetero scene. The clubs are filled with attractive men and there are always some very hot scenes. I don’t go to straight events anymore. “

“….I get the best of both worlds. Some Dommes will only date bi-guys so I do have an advantage there but mostly I date vanilla girls but I get my BDSM from the guys. Dude, you have got to go gay. Let me know and I can introduce you. They would eat you up”.

I did ask him if I could repost this and I’ll tell you what I told him.

I’m flattered for the offer and thankful that he took the time to give me advice. The thing is, I wish I could, but I just love vaginas too much.

Oh vaginas, why do you have to be so good?

This does give me an idea though, I could alway go to a gay BDSM club and just ask every guy I see if he has a sister.

Random Ramblings

· May 21, 2008 · Thoughts · , , · 9 Comments

A few random thoughts:

-I put an ad up on Craigslist yet again last night, the headline: “Who Do I Have To Fuck Around Here To Meet A Dominant Woman?”. I thought it was funny but some thought it sounded desperate or jaded. No matter, I had the same response as the sincere and non desperate posts I put up as well.

-I got an email from TES asking why I hadn’t renewed my membership. I told them that, while I am glad they exist, they really need to do more to encourage dominant women. Maybe having a dominant women’s only group or something. I know too many women who describe most of the submissive men at TES as “creepy”. The last Dominant women/submissive men meeting I was at had around 20 men and 2 women. I’m not exaggerating. I’m sure I’ll still renew my membership. Just not yet.

-I reopened my OK Cupid profile last night. Vanilla ice-cream is better than no ice-cream. Though, I’ll admit my profile mentions kink so I’m sure that will keep them away until I make my profile vanilla.

-I have my RSS Reader automatically mark any dominant women posting on craigslist. I have maybe twenty keywords that will flag it and bring it to my attention. I stopped doing this last year but I decided to start again. Below is an image from the most common post from a dominant woman.

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-I need a drink.

That’s One Down, 9999999 To Go

· May 19, 2008 · Thoughts · · 9 Comments

I ran into someone on the street recently who I learned was engaged.

I gave him a big congrats and asked where he met her.

He knew what I meant by it.

He knew I was really asking where he met a dominant woman.

I met him at lifestyle event years ago and we would run into one another at events like BYTE and SMACK. I remember always thinking of him as a pretty decent guy, certainly not a creep.

“Oh she’s not dominant” he said, “I realized I needed to give that up and just grow up”.

At first I was a bit taken by what he was insinuating. I still don’t know what he meant by it. It seemed to be partially directed toward me.

I dropped the subject and we talked for a few more minutes before we went our different ways.

The good news is, that’s one less submissive guy to compete against.

Hello Sex, Long Time No See

· May 18, 2008 · Thoughts · · 10 Comments

It’s been a long time since I’ve had sex or played.

Sometimes I wonder if a good fuck is all I need and other times I wonder if it will just make me want sex and BDSM even more.

I’ll admit, I’m a picky SOB. Whenever I get comments or emails from readers saying “I just don’t understand why you can’t find someone to play with you…”, The answer is simple. Yes, I can find someone to play, but I can’t play/fuck with just anyone. I need to be attracted to them.

Say that to some people and they’ll say “Well, DUH” and others will say I’m too picky.

I do feel bad when I need to tell someone I’m not interested. For some reason it’s a bad thing when a guy isn’t attracted to a woman but it’s OK for a woman to not be attracted to a guy.

I only feel submissive to someone I’m attracted to mentally and physically. I can’t submit to a woman just because she calls herself a dominant. I wish I could be one of those guys. I know it’s a bit of a flaw that I need to be sexually and mentally attracted to someone on some level in order to play. It limits me.

I know plenty of guys who’d fuck anyone, but I’ve never been one of those guys.

When I was 17 I wanted to lose my virginity more than anything else in the world. It was so bad I could taste it. If an attractive girl looked at me wrong I’d get instantly hard (ok that still happens to this day but that’s besides the point).

A few of my older guy friends decided after a long night of drinking that they were going to get me laid. They knew a woman who’d pretty much sleep with anyone that knocked on her door. We all stumbled into the lobby of her apartment and when she came out to greet us I couldn’t have been more turned off. She was…..not who I wanted to lose my virginity to. Not even, no, not even close.

My buddies tried to push me to go into her apartment. I specifically remember yelling “Fuck no” (Hey I was 17 and drunk). My friends went into her apartment and I waited in the lobby. An hour later they returned and started giving me shit for backing out.

“Boy you really missed out.”

“You can’t be so picky, it’s just sex.”

“If you’re waiting for a hot girl, you’ll be a virgin for a very long time.”

I just sat there quietly while they bragged about their conquest and how great she was in bed.

A week later they admitted that she gave them Chlamydia.

One year later I lost my virginity to two college girls.

It was worth the wait.

I hope my current wait is worth it as well.

I may need to go vanilla to get this itch scratched.

I May Move To Europe

· May 16, 2008 · Thoughts · 8 Comments

In researching my upcoming trip to europe and my search for kink events to go though, a friend pointed out Club Pedestal in London.

It’s billed as “A playground for the dominant woman, and those who worship her”.

From their website:

“* Pedestal nights primarily provide for the entertainment and enjoyment of dominant women, although no doubt our male guests will be glad they came! The layout of the club is large, spread across multiple rooms, with varying themes.”

See that?? Multiple rooms! Not just one room but a series of rooms.

“* House slaves will be present to serve our female guests, they’ll cater for everything from fetching your drinks, to polishing your boots (shoe shine equipment provided)! House slaves are easily identified by their red collars. Read more about the house slaves or apply to become one on the House Slaves page.”

“Are you serious? Finally may dream of providing service in a variety of different ways to a whole club filled with dominant women.”

“* Dungeon equipment (Infernal Mechanix) is concentrated in a dedicated spacious room, although play is encouraged throughout the venue. Lady K will be on hand for those who’d like assistance.”

Play is encouraged. C’mon New York! I love you but you sound so lame compared to London right now.

“* Chill out and worship areas for relaxing and the gentler pleasures.”

Yeah, I checked and they they won’t be having a party while I’m in Europe this summer.

Why does the UK have something like this and we don’t?

You can see the massive turnout they get on their website. The place is packed.

So why can’t we get something similar here in New York? Maybe there are parties like this but they’re all underground and private.

Are they just more open than we are? Kinkier? Are the women more comfortable

Maybe having a queen changes things.

It’s not just in the U.K. though, all over Europe there are cities much smaller than New York but with a bigger Femdom scene.

Anytime I hear someone say, “America is the greatest country in the world”, I want to point them to the number of dominant women in Europe and tell then to shut the fuck up.

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