Thoughts

Kink For All NYC Returns!

I’m so excited to see Kink For All NYC back in almost half a year since the last one. It’s free, you’ll see presentations you wouldn’t normally see at kink events because it’s not your normal kink event (one of the many reasons why it’s so good).

You can hear a conversation I had with Maymay about Kink For All here.

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KinkForAll is an ad-hoc informational unconference on sexuality for anyone and everyone. KinkForAll draws participants from an astounding range of sexuality-related communities. Anyone with the desire to learn or with
something to contribute is welcome and invited to participate.

Vitals
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What: The second no-limits sex-positive gender and sexuality unconference of New York City.
Why: To inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking, learning, and being inspired by all kinds of sexuality.
When: August 8th, 2009
Where: *The **LGBT Center**, **208 West 13th Street, New York.** *
Who: Everyone
How much: FREE (as in beer as well as freedom)

Details
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KinkForAll is an ad-hoc gathering born from the desire for people of the kink, queer, sex-positive and related communities to share and learn in an open environment. It is an intense event with discussions, presentations, and interaction from all participants. (It is inspired by the BarCamp community.)

ANYONE WITH SOMETHING TO CONTRIBUTE OR WITH THE DESIRE TO LEARN IS WELCOME AND INVITED TO JOIN. When you attend, be prepared to share with others. When you leave, be prepared to share it with the world.

A KinkForAll is a special kind of gathering because there are no spectators, only participants. Attendees must give a talk or a presentation, help with one, or otherwise volunteer/contribute in some way to support the event. This is called sharing and we like it. All presentations are scheduled the day they happen—there are no pre-scheduled presentations or keynote addresses. The people present at the event will select the presentations they want to see.

Anyone can present, on any topic related to sexuality. You do not necessarily have to teach a new skill or idea. You might share an experience, review a product, or read a poem. The goal is to start a discussion, make connections, and exchange knowledge. Presentations promoting specific commercial products or companies are discouraged.

Learn more about what to expect at http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/WhatToExpect

Learn more about the event guidelines at
http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/TheRulesOfKinkForAll

Get Involved
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We need your help in spreading the word. Please help by participating.

Here’s how:

1. Get excited by reading the ideas on
http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/KinkForAllNewYorkCity2
2. Add your name or handle to the list of participants
3. Join the mailing list and introduce yourself by emailing
kinkforall@googlegroups.com

Still have questions? Read the Frequently Asked Questions at
http://kinkforall.pbwiki.com/FrequentlyAskedQuestions

or email kinkforall@googlegroups.com for more details.

KinkForAll Online
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Participate online before the event at your favorite social networking web site:

Homepage: http://KinkForAll.org
Google: http://groups.google.com/group/kinkforall
Twitter: http://twitter.com/KinkForAll
Identica: http://identi.ca/kinkforall
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/KinkForAll/40066342762
Fetlife: http://fetlife.com/groups/2962

All primary organizational efforts are being coordinated via the mailing list. Join for free and help turn ideas into realities!

http://groups.google.com/group/kinkforall

I’m Wrong For Thinking This Wrongness Is So Right

After seeing this story from Sweden, I immediately wanted to buy a Huffy and head to Stockholm:

“Swedish cops are on the look-out for a quintet of tattooed girls who dragged a 50-year-old man off his bicycle, pulled down his trousers and smalls and “sexually molested” the poor bloke.
The incident happened on 8 July in Örebro, central Sweden, the Aftonbladet newspaper reports. One of the gang – described as 5′ 7″ tall and with “tattoos on her forearms” – grabbed his bike’s rack and brought the victim to the ground.
Having had their evil way, the five assailants made good their escape. The man was “not otherwise beaten or physically assaulted”.

I told this story to a few people, made the comment on how I wanted to be that guy and was accused of being sexist by one friend in particular.

“Would you feel the same way if it was a woman riding a bike and a gang of tattooed men molested her?”

No, of course I wouldn’t that would be wrong.

Why?

Because it’s different. It just is. I know it’s not supposed to be different, but it’s different.

It’s the same thing when a high-school teacher seduces a student. If the student is a female it’s sick and wrong, if the student is male then he’s the luckiest SOB in school.

Why?

Fuck if I know, it just is.

Now the Swedish bike story takes on a different tone if the man is gay. Then gang of tattooed women are sick and wrong again.

Now you may be asking why the guy reported to the police. Good point. Well first of all this may be one of the few times where the guy wouldn’t want to be molested by a gang of women. Maybe he wasn’t attracted to them. This brings us to an important life lesson for all of those gangs of tattooed women out there: Always ask your potential molestee if he finds you attractive

Another reason why he may have reported it to the cops: Afterwards he searched and searched for them but couldn’t find them so he hoped the police would help him find them…to do it agian. After all, maybe they didn’t leave their contact information. I’ve never been molested by a gang of Swedish women, but one would think it’s customary to leave an email address at least.

Another reason to report it to the cops? After having been molested by a gang of Swedish women, it’s common for men to want to brag to as many people as possible. What better way to spread the word than by reporting it to the police, who report it to newspapers, who put it on line and is read by jealous kinky submissive men in Manhattan who write about it on their blogs.

Interesting fact: The town crier job was how men would broadcast their sexual conquests before the internet was invented. In fact, that’s how the job started in the first place. That’s how “Hear ye, hear ye! I just had a threeway with Lady Fairchild and Duchess Winthorp” became such a popular phrase.

Where was I? OH, why it’s a double-standard that this story makes me hard and the opposite makes me angry.

Yeah, I don’t know. But I’m starting The Rehabilitation Center for Tattooed Swedish Female Gangmembers.

Wanting Your Opinion

So I’ve been debating on wether or not I should put a tiny advertisement on the blog. Nothing big of course. The big question is how you’d feel about it.

I’ve been approached by a few sex-toy companies and a friend has told me she makes some cash off of the porn ads she has on her blog, but I’m just not sure if it’s something right for this blog or not.

Someone else suggested a donation button but based on my experience on the podcast website, that’s not something that people trust to use what with identity theft and all.

Another friend suggested I make a members only section to this blog with photos and video. That feels kinda silly to me since I couldn’t honestly ask someone to pay to see photos not to mention I’d have to invest in a bearskin rug to lay on and there’s no fireplace in my apartment and if I start putting videos up I’d feel pressure to perform and my monthly lube budget would go through the roof and…..

So the easy answer to help pay for the costs of the podcast and maybe even get a few dollars in beer money seems to be putting up a little ad. Maybe an ad for porn, maybe sex toys, maybe…well….I haven’t thought that far yet.

First things first I wanted to know what you thought of the whole idea first?

Put up an ad? Quit my bitching about costs and shut up and blog already?

Another Masocast Podcast Is Go

In this episode I sat down with Sara Eileen, who you may know from A Place To Draw Blood Laughing.

She talked about being a sex geek, finding her sexuality, the types of people she likes to play with and I confess how she makes me feel stupid (because she’s so damn smart).

You can listen on the Masocast website or subscribe in iTunes by clicking below.   

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As always, your comments and feedback are encouraged on how to improve the podcast.

Enjoy!

Looking Up At Her Looking Down On Me

I had just finished kissing her from her toes to the back of her neck. I was dizzy. My hands stroked her warm skin, my lips and tongue would get stuck on an area of her body then my eyes would see a spot I had missed and I’d jump to that spot as well.

I wanted to go longer but she turned around and flipped me on my back without saying a word and moved her body over my mouth. She exhaled deeply as my lips and tongue found the one spot I hadn’t kissed yet.

I moaned my gratitude.

Opening my eyes I saw her looking down at me. I wanted to touch her elsewhere as well but her legs were pinning my arms down. I couldn’t help but whimper or moan or….whatever it was I was doing. Had I been able to think I would have tried express how hot she looked with my eyes, or how addictive she tasted or how grateful and turned on I was.   

She smiled a little and our eyes met.

Days, weeks later I could easily get turned on by just thinking of any part of her body straddling me, but it’s that look in her eyes that make me whimper.

Even while writing this.