Sex As A Reward For Service?

Ok, I know I post about service often but I’ve heard something twice in the past week that totally blows my mind. Mixing service with something more sexual.

I was chatting with a friend about it earlier and the subject came up again.

Here’s an excerpt from a recent chat:

axe: i’ve been performing service for years now and have never done anything sexual

Domme: omg someone as cute as you..

Domme1: well my drive is Huuuuge i couldnt imagine it not being sexual

Domme: how boring

axe: but i’ve performed service for women who had strong drives as well but there was nothing sexual

Domme: maybe they arent attracted to you?

axe: probably

Domme: its what makes it fun. I prefer to closely supervise and punish when its not done right..and reward when it is

axe: i enjoy close supervision

axe: but a reward for a good job? usually a reward for me is being allowed to come back and clean again

Domme: omg

Domme: no….

Domme at least jerking off

Domme: its hot

Domme: i just find it so highly charged

Domme: lol but maybe everything is that way for me

Domme: i guess i want it to be more intense…

Domme: what do you wear?

Domme: ive fantasized about an apron and naked.

axe: usually jeans and a tshirt, my normal clothes

Domme: really i think its super erotic

Domme: its hard work, the guys sweat, its fun to see a hot ass…. cleaning.. 🙂

Domme: it elevates the mundane

I’ve had the image of being objectified in my head for the last few weeks. The whole CFNM thing is a bit of a turn-on.

I imagine my submissive feelings would be stronger if I were naked while doing it…mabye. It’s been my experience that most women don’t want a naked guy cleaning for them, much less a submissive one.

Yet I’ve learned that two of my friends enjoy having submissive men naked while serving them.

Maybe it’s a west coast thing:)

I have no clue how service would be different for me if other aspects of BDSM were mixed in with it.

Would my quality of work get worse because I would be too eager to play? Would it increase because I might feel even more submissive?

Oral Addiction

Of all the things in the world, giving oral is by far the thing I adore the most.

Breathing is a close second only because it allows me to have future opportunities to do so.

I was going to write a post about service and the difference between serving someone who deserves it as opposed to someone who’s just lazy…but I can’t it out of my mind.

I once had a situation with a woman who just wanted to use me for my oral skills. It didn’t start that way. We had met in a bar and she took me home with her assuring me there would be no sex, just a little fooling around. After I gave her oral she said she wanted to keep ours an “orally based” relationship. I was more than happy to oblige. I was in my early 20’s and she was about ten years my senior. She would call me up and invite me over for a couple of hours. She never went down on me, if she was in the mood she would ask me to jerk off for her between her orgasms.

I miss having an orally based relationship. I imagine a woman sending me a text with just a time and a place to meet her. Or me sending her a text with a simple word, “Please”. I arrive at her house to dive my face between her legs and after she’s fully satisfied I’m either enjoying a drink with her or she kicks me out the door.

Hmmm now I’m thinking of what it would be like in a relationship. What better way to greet someone home from work than to be worshiping her body seconds after she gets home from a long day at work.

Ok my mind is running away from me. It’s been far too long. Damn me and my needing to be attracted to someone first.

There are few things in this world that I have a big head about. One of them is oral.

Not everyone thinks I’m great at it. Far too many women are self-conscious about a guy pleasing them in that way and there have been a few that think I’m too obsessed with it . Ok…vanilla women at least.

I love the fact that it takes time to really learn how to get a woman off this way. Some are easier than others and some are like a safe that I need to try and crack the code for. Everyone is different. I love the fact that some have said I was their first oral orgasm (though they could have been lying for my benefit).

Ok my eyes are glazing over.

I had one woman tell me I need to teach classes on the subject.

Yes, it’s one thing that can make me beam with pride. I’m a total oral slave…and a very good one too.

Maybe someday I’ll write about my oral “finishing move”.

I was debating on writing a graphic depiction of what I find works best. Not sure if I want this to be a totally graphic blog or not.


See, if I were to tell you what I find to be best oral technique, it may help a lot of submissive men out there (or at least the two that read this blog). At the same time, it’s something I can offer that few others can.

Plus it would be ungentlemanly wouldn’t it?

Maybe for a future post.

Happy Holidays dear reader. Hopefully I’ll find someone to accept my gift…even if it’s just for one night.

Now if you’ll excuse me I need to go buy a pack of gum, some lollypops and anything else that will keep my mouth busy.