TESFest. Do I Pack Condoms?

Originally I was going to be in Europe for my Euro-Kink-Tour-Sextravaganza but that’s been pushed off to early next month. Good news is that I get to spend time with friends at TesFest. It’s basically and entire hotel filled with only kinky people.

I’m looking forward to it. I’m sharing a room with two other friends. Two attractive women and myself. Jealous???? They’re in beds and I’m on the floor.

I’ve gone to Black Rose, Floating World, MAST and a few other similar events and if TESFest is anything like those I know not to go with any expectations other than having a good time socializing and making new friends. That’s not a bad thing of course, but I have a totally different set of expectations. I was talking to one female buddy who has a different set of expectations:

Friend: “I can’t wait! I’m going to have so much sex with so many cool people! I already have 5 play dates setup.”

Me: “Good for you!”

Friend: “How many play dates do you have set up?”



It feels weird to look at the community area and see that they have a special section just for making play dates. Play dates (one assumes) are basically hookups. People will post what kinky things they’re into and hope that someone will respond with interest . It’s really very… interesting.

Everyone I talk to keeps talking about how huge and elaborate the dungeon will be. I’m sure it will be very cool. I’m just happy that the hotel has a bar.

Do I pack condoms? Packing condoms would basically be an admission that I’m not only hoping to have sex but planning on having sex. Bringing condoms means your planning to have sex. If I bring condoms and don’t have sex then the condoms will be a reminder of the fact that I didn’t have sex yet I was planning on it. It’s a failed plan. However, if I don’t bring condoms and don’t have sex I can always say “oh well, it’s no biggie, I didn’t bring condoms anyway”.

It’s like when I was 16 and carried the same condom in my wallet for over a year. Eventually it made a permanent ring in the leather of my wallet and it eventually became a constant reminder of my not being able to find someone up for using it with me. I ended up throwing the wallet and the unused condom away out of frustration.

I’m debating on the condoms. Either way TESFest should be a good time.

After all, they have beer! Fingers crossed that they have Brooklyn Lager on tap.


Originally I was going to be out of town during TES Fest. My Euro-Kink-Tour-Sextravaganza was going to kick off that same weekend.

Plans change.

I’ve had to push the trip back a few weeks and so now I can go to TES Fest after all.

I was debating if I should go or not. On one hand I know I’ll have lots of friends there, on the other hand sometimes watching people play while I fake a smile on my face is a bit uncomfortable.

One of my best friends who I usually go to events like this is still not sure if she can go. Then another good friend emailed me asking if I wanted to split a room. I knew if she was going I’d be guaranteed to have a good time. Fingers crossed my other good friend will be able to go too.

And so….I’m going.

Looking over the class schedule I see that there are some classes that really interest me on a perv level but know seeing them would make me want it even more. It will depend on my mood. Sometimes I’ll be at a presentation and wish I had a girlfriend sitting next to me whispering how she can’t wait to try it on me when we get home.

Here a few classes that make me squirm:

House of Bondage
Metal Bondage
Suspension for Everyone
Using Long whips in SM play
Core Protocol Construction
Evolution of Service
Whole Body SM

Crap I could go on and on. Classes on CBT, anal play, even oral worship.

If you’re going, hopefully our paths will cross. It sounds like it’ll be a fun weekend!

My Latex Shirt

So I now own a latex shirt.

I’m going to an event (possibly two) this weekend that will be populated by mainly latex fetishists. I’ve gone to the event before, it’s mostly just a lot of people in latex socializing. Good people for the most part. Every time I’ve been there’s been a good number of friendly people to talk to. Almost all in latex.

I’ll admit, I’ve been avoiding events like these for the past few months. I’ve been trying to just relax and take a break but I miss the socializing. There will probably be a few people I haven’t seen in a while there too and it will be nice to say hi.

I really don’t have a latex fetish, nor do I really have a leather fetish. It’s great to look at, don’t get me wrong, but I would imagine that being all suited up in latex might make play more difficult and limiting. Wouldn’t it? No clue.

The latex shirt is somewhat of a necessity since there are some events that require it. Latex on guys though, isn’t flattering. At least not on me. I feel way too thin in it. (note to self, try to start working out more than just 2 times a week). I never understood latex fetish before. Sure it looks great but it also looks uncomfortable.

I know plenty of women who love latex. One of my best friends has a damn good collection and I met another one of my best friends at a party while a submissive was running latex lube on her body getting her all nice and shiny. I never understood what the big deal was. Sure it looks good but I thought it would feel weird. Then I tried the shirt on. I tried it on and thought “wow, like a chest/tummy condom…only this feels good”. I think I get it now. I’m sure there’s a big difference between walking around and socializing in fetishwear as opposed to… know…other things.

Another reason for the latex shirt is my upcoming trip to Europe. The Euro-kink-fest sextravaganza. (Who am I’ll probably be sexless but it’s just fun to say it). The parties in Europe are mostly fetish based. A friend recently told me that most parties in Europe have little to do with BDSM but lots to do with fetish. So, a boy needs to be prepared.

Originally I was planning on wearing the latex shirt with my leather pants but I was quickly told that they don’t go together. Time to find plan B.

Come to think of it, there are a number of events this weekend that I might be going to. Thankfully I’ll be going with one of my best friends so it won’t be awkward.


This summer I’m hoping to take a trip to Europe.

I’ve never been, I’m extra super excited.

So I was thinking. Why not make it a kink tour.

Anyone ever been? Suggestions? Places to stay or people to see?

So far I’ve heard Berlin and Amsterdam are the places to go.