Thoughts

The Week Of Beatings

As part of my training, she’s started something new. Every day for a week I’m to bring her a handful of rope and an implement for her to beat me with.

She’s doing it to increase my pain tolerance and to help associate pain with pleasure.

I won’t go into the dirty details but I can say this so far.

Day 1: I was really looking forward to it. Antisipated her hurting me, making me sweat, moan and cry.

Day 2: I was scared. She took me so far the night before. I was worried I wouldn’t be able to take it. My ass still hurt from the night before.

Day 3: I was so worried. All day long I looked at the clock and said to myself “15 hours until she does it again”. “Oh no…now it’s only 6 hours!” “Fuck how am I going to do this, it’s only 2 hours away”. She has me pick out the implement and I choose the softest thing I can find. She vetoes it and I make another choice, the heavy leather paddle, she accepts.

Day 4: Something changed…Instead of dreading it I was eager for it even though my ass was still sore and red. Instead of looking at the clock with worry, I looked at it with anticipation.

Day 5: I’m swamped with work on my 2nd job, I’m feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Midnight comes quickly and she makes me cry from a beating faster than I have before.

..to be continued

Rope Share Returns!

I’m really excited to see the return of the Rope Share in NYC.

Not just because it’s a great way to learn new rope techniques, but because a few friends of mine are the brains behind the operation.

The next Rope Share is on the 23rd of this month and the assistant for this class is my very good friend V. Reading about a rope class where V is an assistant is like taking a beginners class on learning to play guitar where Peter Frampton is the assistant, you think “if that’s who’s the assistant, you KNOW the main instrustor will be damn good”.

The best part about it is the environment. It’s a very friendly, relaxed and open place to share skills and ideas. It’s not like most rope classes where there’s someone in front of a room showing you how to do a tie, it’s everyone in the room practicing, laughing and learning (ok now I sound like the children’s television workshop). And it’s only 25 bucks!

More Details:

The Rope Share is a bondage workshop that is structured to fit your skill levels and interests. There is one highly skilled rope instructor and one teaching assistant. The attendance will be limited to 12 students.

This month’s Rope Share workshop is a concentrated class for the beginner/novice. The instructor will teach you the basics of safety, negotiations and the elemental ties needed to start your bondage exploration.

This is a lab-environment setting and we will practice on one another. Please be open to both tie and be tied for the sake of education. Please wear comfortable clothing as there is no nudity during the class.

Bring Rope: 4 lengths of 25ft. rope; 2 lengths of 50ft.; and safety scissors. Cotton, nylon, hemp, and jute are all fine.

To sign up, send an email to RopeShare@gmail.com Title the subject line as “Novice Rope Share Sign Up” and

include the following information in your email:

1. Your name (Scene name or legal)

2. Contact number and email address

3. Rope bondage experience and skill level ( Please be brief)

4. What you are interested in learning

5. How you heard about this workshop

Sign up now as places are expected to fill quickly! Beginners to advanced rope players are all welcome!! If you have never tried rope before, but are curious, this is a safe space to share and learn rope bondage.

A New Podcast And Congratulations!

A new Masocast is up with an interview featureing Sascha talking about different kinds of non-monogamy, advice for men who email her, merging her halves and more.

As always, you’re suggestions, donations, comments and voicemails are really appreciated.

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On another note:

Ever since people started finding out about our relationship, something has been happening over and over and over again that has become a bit of a joke between she and I.

People are congratulating me.

Over and over. Via email, in person, on the phone, text messages, facebook, twitter. I’m getting congratulated.

Not her. Just me.

Recently someone was standing in front of both of us and I was congratulated. Again, not her, just me.

Maybe they know what she’s getting into and don’t wish THAT on anyone.

Or maybe they know how much I’ve bitched and moaned as I looked for her.

Either way, it’s our latest running joke.

Another Masocast Is In The Hopper

Just published another podcast. This time it’s a roundtable discussion between Ayla, Alex, Sade and Troy about a variety of topics including the sacred aspects of BDSM, kinky cloning, hiring a sex worker and more.

Find a link to their websites at masocast.com. While you’re there why not make sure your credit card is still working and donate.

You know…for the troops.

I’m starting up another big round of interviews so if you or someone you know would like to sit down for a casual conversation just shoot me an email. Masocast at gmail dot com.

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Settling In

So a few weeks ago, she and I moved in together.

We found a new place, a two bedroom apartment in a fairly new building. Currently the spare bedroom is being used to store boxes of things that still need to be put away but eventually it’ll be used as her photo studio.

We’re settling in, getting things put away, gearing up for the holidays. We’re flying back to her hometown and I’ll meet her family.

There’s something about this space, it’s hard to describe.

It’s like a sanctuary.

After work I come in the door and I can just feel the weight of my day lifted off of me.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh

After a couple of weeks of my asking, she posted a schedule of chores for me to do. My brain doesn’t work in a way that allows me to walk into a room and know exactly what needs to be done. Rather than constantly asking with “what can I do?” I asked for a list.

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I love it!

We’re planning to do a lot in our new place. Parties (kinky and non), photo shoots, having a place for out-of-town friends to crash.

The days go by so quickly here. It feels like just like yesterday I was providing service to her for the first time and I look on the calendar and it’s been six months since I first walked into her old apartment.

Six months!

I can’t believe it’s gone by so fast.

It’s been an amazing 1/2 a year and I’m excited to see what the new year brings.