Hello from London! I’m terribly sleep deprived but found a little cafe with free wifi and it gave me a chance to show you this gem.
Medieval chastity devices???
Badman has an interesting post filled with some great comments on the issue of presenting myself as a submissive to women.
One woman left a comment: “I enjoy being dominant but find myself repulsed by a man who says he is submissive. “
Later she wrote “After speaking with Bad Man about your issues I’ve come to believe one thing: you’d be best served by paying for what you want.”
Ouch. That sucks eggs.
Troy’s comment was considerably more helpful: “Where I see axe go wrong sometimes is that he puts his submission first: objectifying his own sexual orientation in the same way he objectifies the women he hopes will dominate him. If he’d only focus his efforts on being axe, on showing all of axe’s dimension, not just the subby part.”
I’ve attempted this a few times over the past week. I’ve tried to change the way I present myself as just a normal guy who happens to be submissive. After exchanging emails with one woman on Collarme recently, she suggested I start looking for a submissive woman. Why Is that?
“Because you don’t seem submissive. Your tactics are quite aggressive and Dom-like. Maybe you’re not a sub. Maybe you’re just a bottom. I don’t know.”
Keep in mind, I was respectful to her. It’s not like I was demanding that she use me or anything.
“You will use me for your pleasure!! Force me to bow down before you!!!”
I was just being myself. Relaxed, calm, not begging.
I’m now wondering if I hadn’t shown my other dimensions things would have turned out differently with my conversation with her.
It seems some women require a guy to act more submissive and others are turned on by the ones who don’t. I’ll have to try and pay more attention in the future to see what type of guy a woman goes for.
Do I toss a coin to see if I should just be myself or if I should present myself in a more submissive manner?
What are the signs to look for when seeing what kind of guy a woman is looking for?
How can you tell if a woman is looking for someone who is more submissive compared to someone who’s looking for all of my dimensions up front?
It’s certainly something to think about.
It will be nice to get away from searching for a bit, put my mind at ease and hopefully I’ll come back from Europe with a new perspective on things.