BDSM As Stress Relief

I’ve had a very stressful past couple of weeks.   A combination of family emergencies, work stress, and a feeling of spreading myself too thin with all of my obligations.

Often I’ll be at work and I’ll feel a pull to escape.  I’ll just want to be in the comfort of the tiny space that is our world when Sade and I are alone.  Wether we’re cuddled up watching Stephen Fry on the BBC, laughing our asses off at who knows what or doing something frisky.

It’s in those more stressful moments where I’ll feel a desire for more than cuddle time. I’ll feel the need to be taken.   Sometimes that need is to be bent over and fucked by her, sometimes it’s to be beaten until I collapse.  To lose myself in my submission to her.

It’s not just in the intimacy and the agression of it all.  It’s also a need to not be stuck in my own head, juggling a million things at once.  When she takes me, everything else dissolves away.

A few weeks ago she could tell I was overwhelemd with everything.  It was just after midnight, I was taking a break from some of my freelance work to wash the dishes and she looked at me and told me to get into the bedroom.

She knew I needed a release and after a good round of spanking, whacking, flogging and other torments, she ordered me to cry.

The release was exactly what I needed even though I didn’t know it beforehand.

I needed to cry, to have a break from the work and feel the closness of us, to let everything but us fade away for even a moment.

It not only helped with the stress of the night but the stresses of the coming days.

I’m still not certain how that works, but it does.

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SweetGeekGoddess and I are great believers in this concept ourselves. While BDSM practice’s aren’t therapy, they can certainly be very therapeutic.

After periods of high stress, a good thrashing often serves to rebalance her Universe. I suspect it’s the focusing on the sensations, which can be so intense and all consuming, helping to remove everything else from the mind for at least a short duration. These periods of ‘refocusing’ naturally don’t remove the cause of the stress, they simply give our minds a well deserved ‘Vacation’.

GamerUK

I found myself nodding along to a lot of this. As GamerUK said – it’s not therapy, but it often is therapeutic!

xx Dee

I came to much the same conclusion you have when I was in the middle of it all. It got me out of my head. It made things quiet. I was able to *feel*. It turned the dials down where I was not analyzing, not feeling every emotional slight, but *feeling* myself and the moment. It put me in the now, not the future or the past.

third or is it forth now….

it seams that there is a conscientious (that mey be spelled wrong even with the spell checker) that BDSM of whatever flavor are very therapeutic. I am also struck again how our experiences are very similar right down to the order for tears. 20 years apart and in different parts of the world but with a good and trusted Domme I guess some overlap is inevitable.

Hi, just wanted to say that as a submissive girl I never thought i would find reading about a submissive man appealing…
Stumbled over here from Monmouth and gotta say I love your writing. Male or female i guess all submissives have the same thoughts and feelings..I can totally relate that it’s when i’m feeling most stressed or insecure that i really crave that domination and spanking!

(Also i’m suprised how hot i find it reading about your Domme controlling you!)

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