Serving Viviane

Viviane gave me the honor of serving her and her guests at her monthly tea party just over a week ago.

I agreed of course (she’s difficult to say no to), though I was a little nervous since I had never served more than two people at a time.

The week beforehand I emailed her countless times asking if there was anything I should do to prepare, what to expect, if there was anything I should pick up…any question I could come up with. Clearly I was overanalyzing the situation. It was due to a combination of nervousness and eagerness to please.

I never know what the vibe will be when I first meet someone for service. Will they want me to be formal or “at ease”?

It was clear that I would be more “at ease” and that suits me just fine. The hardest part was watching Viviane do so much work while I just stood there while she prepared. My knowledge in the kitchen really needs to be expanded.

I found myself asking “Please is there anything I can do before the guest arrive?” but she had it all under control.

Thankfully as the guests arrived I became busier. So many new faces and a few I had met briefly before.

Most of my tasks involved serving drinks, taking out trash, placing food out. All things I was new to in the realm of service.

There were a number of moments where I did have time to socialize and meet some amazing people:

Meeting Sinclair and watching this trick impressed me to no end.

My ability to work an oven was painfully apparent when Calico brought some Mac-n-cheese that needed to be heated up. I remember thinking to myself “Hello, yes I’m a service-oriented submissive that doesn’t know the first thing about how hot an oven should be to heat up food…I’m a total ass!!! How are you?”. Her Mac-n-cheese was gone within 4 minutes by the way.

Wendy has an addictive laugh.

Desire also has a way of making me feel impotent in the kitchen. We shared some great witty banter.

May and Eileen are the only Domme/sub couple I know, not only is seeing them a validation that it could someday happen to me, they’re also incredibly nice.

Ok I could name-drop like crazy (Viviane doesn’t like having someone name-drop her constantly so I’ll try to keep the Viviane name dropping to a minimum for Viviane.)but the important thing for me was how I felt afterwards. I thought I did a decent job despite my lack of knowledge in some areas, fell on my face in a few situations but nothing too bad. I met some amazing people who I’ve been reading for years and it was nice to put faces to the words. Also Viviane, despite my fumbling in the kitchen, made me feel appreciated and that’s part of the reason I enjoy doing it.

The quote of the night?

Viviane said as I was leaving: “Ohh and we didn’t get a chance to flog you”.

Damn….don’t I know it.


Awww, thank you doll! Thats the nicest compliment I ever got about my laugh ever.

Incredibly nice? Clearly you don’t know me well enough. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Sounds like you had an incredibly enjoyable but nervous night. But, it does sound fun.

Hey, *I* think he’s nice.

Good to see you again, axe :).

Yes, you are overanalyzing.

Learning a new kitchen is always a challenge.

And next time you *will* get flogged.

Oooh! Oooh! Can I help flog him? Boymeat taught me some skillz a while ago. ๐Ÿ™‚

i still can’t get over how busy you are! i think i’d be exhausted. ๐Ÿ™‚

It was a pleasure to meet you!

Ha, of course you’re not an ass.

Maybe once upon a time people memorized cookbooks, but in the age of Google you’ll never have to remember the difference between a julienne and a chiffonade. Or what temp an oven should be.

Everything I know about service, I learned from waitressing. Here is what my boss told me the first day: smile, ask them what they want, and tell them you’ll see what you can do. It’s really pretty easy. All else is fluff and formality…

Yes, everything I learned in the service industry confirms Calico’s advice. Smile, ask them what they want, and then say “I’ll see what I can do.” And then, actually go, and see what you can do.

The trick to that is if you can’t do what they asked, come back and say “Here’s the effort I made, and I’m sorry, but here’s why your request still can’t happen.” This works like a charm. When I was doing computer retail, I would literally have people *thank* me for telling them I couldn’t replace their computer.

From where I was sitting and standing, I thought you did an excellent job.