This post by Ms Jones really struck home with me.
For those of you that aren’t familiar, the ratio of Dominant women to submissive men is…well way off. Some say it’s a 1/20. I say it’s 1/98239873498. At least it feels that way.
So how does one find that other 95%? Clearly we need to make the enviroment more comfortable for them so they don’t feel like freaks (or at least in a bad way). We need to sneak more things into our media showing healthy, smart, successful women in control and overpowering men…in a good way.
Ok I got a little turned on there.
Maybe I should run for office and make it a requirement that all women who get a little turned on from the thought of being dominant need to register with the DMV or something. That way you could just look at her drives license and see:
“Oh look you’re an organ donor and you enjoy service, protocols, heavy caning and oral worship”.
It would be so much easier. Then I could get a job as a bouncer and I’d meet plenty every night.
It’s so crazy it just might work.
Another friend pointed out that it’s much easier being a dominant man and gradually introducing BDSM in a relationship than a submissive man. He suggested that I try dominating a little in bed first and then see if she’s more interested in turning the tables on me.
While that may work in theory, I don’t think I could bring myself to do it.
I’d love that! If only because I’d love to go to the DMV and announce very loudly that I enjoy anal fisting, and would you please put that at the top of the list in bold?
Wendy: Hey sure! Mine would say oral worship and a bunch of other stuff:)
That’s called the bait-and-switch technique, and in my anything-but-humble opinion it is a classic sign of desperation.
It also doesn’t even work in theory.
You’re right! I had thought of it as “the ol’ shellgame” but you’re right on the money.
Oh and you’re anything-but-humble opinion is always held in high regard in my book.
Trying to switch the rules in mid-game is most often deadly for relationships. Better to start out with as much as possible on the table before you start.
However . . . . there is a problem in this when it comes to the dominance/submission issue. Personal relationships that work have som many parts. To say “I am seeking a dominant partner” may be a start, but what about all the other components that make being together exciting and rewarding?
Still, it should be possible to be seeking a dominant person who likes symphonies, good wine, and long walks.