Bad Man brought up an interesting point that I’ve heard from others.
There aren’t many straight male dating/sex bloggers out there, and even fewer submissive straight male bloggers out there.
I started writing because I wanted to internalize how I felt about being a submissive, writing helps with that. Also I wanted to be able to get feedback and opinion from others who were interested in the subject.
If you try and find a sex/dating blog written by a straight guy it pales in comparison to those written by women, gay or bi-men. If you look for specifically straight submissive men, it’s even harder and most of those are males in relationships of one form or another.
So why are there so few straight male bloggers out there? Even fewer submissive ones?
I do have a few theories as to why there aren’t more blogs like mine:
-Time: Most submissive men are too busy spending hours on collarme.com or alt.com to have time to blog. I didn’t start writing until I got fed up with spending hours and hours (I’m not exaggerating, sometimes up to 7 hours in one night) every night composing thoughtful emails with no response. Or having a rare response but ending up with a bad experience. It wasn’t until I gave up on those sites that I had more time on my hands and decided to write. After all, I was used to spending time on they keyboard.
-It’s not exactly sexy: Writing about the desperation or the ache to be beaten isn’t something many guys would be willing to put out there. Most submissive men aren’t comfortable admitting their desires to their partners much less to the masses online. For many women…ok MOST women, a submissive male is a turnoff. Why would they admit to it?
There’s also a big difference (for me anyway) when I’m reading a blog written by a woman than a guy. I don’t know when the last time I got turned on while reading a guys blog. Yeah of course you enjoyed having sex, you’re a guy. Reading about how a woman got her rocks off…
Ok I’m back….sorry..I had to take care of….umm….something.
anyway, reading about how a woman loves sex and what makes her toes curl is hot. Reading how a guy likes sex is…well… obvious.
So the answer? Why are there more women, gay men and bi-men blogging?
I have no clue.