Random Stuff For The New Year

· January 12, 2009 · Events, Thoughts · , , , , , , , , · 13 Comments

Just a few random thoughts to throw your way.

-I’ve added a mini-banner to ClubFEM NYC on the left-hand side. I once wrote about my first experience going to one of their parties here. They have probably the biggest munch in NYC and their parties are memorable to say the least. I’m planning on going to more munches and more parties again this year (I need to get over the shyness of showing my bare ass in public) and hope to see you there.

-I’m running a bit low on Found Femdom images in the media. If you come upon any, feel free to email them to me. My address can be found on the right hand side in my Facebook profile link.

-My back is getting a bit better every day. Thanks to everyone who’s emailed advice and concern. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy to know you care. Or maybe that’s just the Vicodin.

-You may notice that I’ve been sounding considerably less desperate lately. That’s due to my being less desperate. While I’ve been having a number of new experiences lately it’s hard for me to post about them for some reason. I have a few unfinished drafts yet they remain that way until I can finish processing them. I will say that I’ve got a rope burn on my wrist that’s been there for a few weeks now, my mouth and other parts have been put to good use a few times, not to mention having had a tender bottom on more than one occasion.

-My tax return will be here in less than a month. It won’t be much but I keep having an internal fight over what I should do with the cash.

Pay off some debt? Or maybe use the money to get almost half-way to saving up for….

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…a Macbook Pro.

Fuck it’s so tempting.

What do do what to do??

This is where being in a Female led relationship would come in handy. She could simply tell me the smart thing to do would be to pay off deb but nooooooo I need to be single right now and deal with temptation. I don’t do well with temptation.

A friend suggested I put up a donate button on the blog but I don’t feel comfortable doing that. Plus, if i did, every post would be about how I need people to donate so I can get my Mac fetish fix. This blog would become the kinky version of an NPR pledge drive.

Sugasm #156

· January 12, 2009 · Links · · No Comments

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #157? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Mouth Music
“Can you feel the heat of my lips taunting you yet?”

4 a.m.
“My mouth craves skin and I dip my head to her shoulder.”

Wanting
“I want my whisper in your ear to make you shiver”

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Honesty: Being Too Honest

Editor’s Choice
To Richard, A Dedication. Confession #205

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Body like a battleaxe
The Fantasy of Infidelity
Hollywood-The Diva Bull Who Hated Condoms
The Making of a Stripper With Benefits
Sex In A Bar Fantasy
Touch
Unbidden Fantasies
Yearning
Your Smug Grin

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Fetish Interview with Mistress160
Immagini di un convento — Sexually Active Nuns
Top Five Tuesday: Our Favorites of 2008!

Sexual Poetry
When I think of her eyes…

BDSM & Fetish
A day in the life…
Donald D.U.C.K.
Energy Independence
Flip the switch, and make it burn…
His piss slut
Pre-Christmas Adventure
Seaside Vacation Spanking with a Switch
Seven In One Day
Short Sweet Visciousness

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Merry Christmas

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
But You Don’t LOOK Gay!
Dirty Boy
Interracial Depth
The Perverted Negress: Origins
This is Your Brain, on Masturbation [podcasturbation]

What Does a Big Penis Feel Like to a Woman?

Found Femdom: Your Guess Is As Good As Mine

· January 8, 2009 · Found Femdom · · 10 Comments

I’ve hit a bit of a dry spell in finding finding Femdom in the media lately but a reader sent me this via Darker Sights and Sounds

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I know, I know, it’s not the usual kind of stuff I post but it really struck me. I don’t know wether to laugh or get turned on.

Gun, rope, fingernails, blood all while another woman is taking photos?

What was the photographer thinking?

If this is an interrogation scene it seems like a bit of overkill. If I were this guy I would have started spilling my guts long before the gun came out.

It also makes me wonder what the woman in the back is doing. Her friend in red is using her nails and holding the rope. What? She can’t lend a hand? Maybe she’s hiding something extra evil. Maybe that’s the point.

I ran this photo past Sweet And Lowdown and she said the photo would be better if the guy were forced to suck on the end of the gun.

While I’m nitpicking this photo: Open your eyes man!! Sure it looks like you’re about to die but at least you can keep your eyes open and enjoy your last moments on earth!

As silly as this photo is, I’m ashamed to admit I’ll probably be thinking about it in the shower later.

Now if you’ll excuse me I’m going to go add whatever the hell this scene is to my list of kinks on Fetlife.

50% Of Submissive Men Are Assfaces

· January 6, 2009 · Thoughts · · 10 Comments

I’m on some pretty powerful pain pills right now so forgive me if I blabber on and on more than normal.

So yeah, 50% of submissive men are assfaces. I may be aiming a bit low on this one.

I’ve been hearing a lot of stories lately about how submissive men won’t show up when they have the opportunity to meet a woman.

While having coffee with a Femdom couple over the weekend, one told me that she can guarantee that over half of all potential submissive men won’t even show up for an initial meeting.

Could it be that most of these guys looking to meet someone aren’t actually looking to meet someone?

Another example came from a woman I know who had been in contact with a submissive for months, they spoke on the phone and he constantly stated his interest in her, how deeply he wanted to be her slave and how devoted he was to her (before even meeting her, that made her a bit suspicious of course) and every time she mentioned meeting he’d start sounding vague. Back and forth this would go.

There have been times when I’ve talked to someone on the phone after a few emails then lost interest after a conversation. That’s sort of the point of a phone conversation. But standing someone up or constantly leading them on?

I can only imagine a few reasons why a guy would do this.

-I get the feeling that most like the idea of it, they like to think about it but when it comes down to actually having an experience, they soil their pants and run the other way.

-They’re married or otherwise involved.

-They may be looking for any kind of sex as long as it’s sex, they’re not really submissive they’re just horny and when it’s time to put up or shut up, they shut up.

-They’re ashamed of who they are. I know many submissive men who daydream about BDSM but when they’re faced with something real, they’re filled with shame or guilt.

-They get off on the chase. For them it’s knowing that they could if they wanted to. This isn’t isolated among submissive men, I know women who chase men only to lose interest once they know they can easily get what they want.

-They’re just plain assfaces.

Pain In The…

· January 3, 2009 · Thoughts · 8 Comments

…back.

Not fun, not fun at all.

A few days ago I started feeling a dull pain on the right side of my back. The next day it was stronger and the next day it was unbearable. I eventually went to the Dr and was given a prescription for some muscle relaxant that barely help. It just dulls the pain and makes me want to sleep.

Another surprising side effect is that lately I haven’t been thinking about sex. Not kinky sex, not vanilla sex, not anything.   

As someone who’s familiar with my libido said: “Wow. You’re actually not horny right now? And it only took near-crippling back pain and drugs to do it!”. I’m lucky that she can speak from first hand experience.

My brain is bored right now. The parts of it usually dedicated to thinking about sex is just sitting there twiddling its thumbs, waiting.

I’ve tried devoting that part of my brain to something else but it’s bored by anything but sex.

Three days of muscle relaxants should do the trick shouldn’t it? Shouldn’t be hurting still.

These pills really don’t help the pain as much as they help me sleep through it. I slept twelve hours last night. Twelve!

What makes it worse is that this is standing in the way of me having a good time. It’s standing in the way of me having actual sex.

If only I could figure out what to do with my brain.

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