While listening to the Savage Love podcast, I heard a woman complaining about the kink scene in her city. She complained that most of the men were older, she didn’t find them attractive and the submissive men she tries to meet online don’t show up.
This is a common complaint for people I know here in New York, makes me wonder if she’s here or if this is a universal issue.
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This brings up a good question: Why aren’t there more younger people at kink events and BDSM clubs?
My first night in New York, I went to paddles and was surprised that I was by far the youngest person there and I was 29 at the time.
Why does the age seem to skew older?
Is there something that clicks inside someone’s mind when they reach a certain age where there willing to take a chance and explore?
The other thing she brings up in the call is how she gets stood-up by submissive guys she tries to meet online. Speaking as someone who once drove more than 24 hours to meet a woman in hopes she’d want to play/fuck him, I can’t really understand this. I think most of the guys are overcome by their fear and that makes them flake out in the last minute. I can understand that fear. Myabe the voice screaming from my cock is louder than the voice in my brain screaming in fear and that makes me show up anyway.
It should NOT be this hard for a woman to find what she needs.