Cock Milking?

I was on Fetlife tonight, just browsing (as is my want) and noticed that there were a ton of fetishes added to the list of interests one can mark.

On one hand it’s nice to look at a list just to see what’s out there, on the other hand I’m realizing how much more there is for me to explore.   

I look at it and wonder if this means I’m polyamorous by default since there’s pretty much no way one person would be interested in all of that. Does it make me greedy and unrealistic to enjoy so much and want to try even more?

There are a number of things I marked as being curious about since I have no clue what they are but they sound appealing.

Cock milking? What the hell is cock milking? I don’t know but if a woman ever asked to do it to me I’d probably say yes. Initially I want to say it has something to do with forced orgasms but as far as I know it may involve throwing hard blocks of cheese at a guys privates.

There’s so much out there but here’s what I’ve got checked off so far.

Into:

anal sex, anonymous encounters, ass play, ball gags, ball stretching, bare bottom spanking, biting, blindfolds, blow jobs, bondage, bondage equipment, bondage tape, cling film, clothespins, cunnilingus, d/s, depilation/shaving, dildos, discipline, erotic photography, female ejaculation, femdom, flogging, foot massage, foot worship, foot/feet, gags, hair pulling, handcuffs, high heels, hoods, impact play, leather, leaving marks, light bondage, making home movies, masks, masochism, masturbation, mistress/slave, mutual masturbation, nipples, objectification, oral sex, orgasm control, orgasm denial, otk spanking, pain, pinching, power exchange, restraints, riding crops, rimming, sadism, scent, service-oriented submission, shaving, single tail whips, spanking, speech restriction, spreader bars, strap-ons, submission, subspace, talking dirty, teasing, threesomes, tongues, toys, vibrators, whips.

Curious about:

obedience training, tantra, abduction, anal beads, anal training, body modification, breast/nipple torture, breath play, caging/confinement, candle wax, catheters, chains, chastity devices, clamps and clips, clover clamps, cock and ball torture, cock milking, collar and lead/leash, doctor/nurse play, electrotorture, enemas, exhibitionism, fisting, forced orgasms, gangbangs, gorean slave positions, group sex, high protocol, human furniture, humiliation, hypnosis, latex, master/slave, mind fucks, piercings, prostate massage, pursuit, take-down & capture, remote-control devices, role play, rope bondage/suspension, rubber, sensory deprivation, sex in public, shackles, shibari, suspension, suspension bondage, tattoos, tearing off clothing, tens unit, total power exchange, urethral sounds, vacuum bed, vampires, wartenberg pinwheels, water torture, waterbondage, watersports.

17 Comments

I’d just say you were a hedonist. That’s a good thing to be! I never understand why one would want to limit pleasure.

Why would you put down that you were curious about something if you’re not even sure what it is? All you have to do is google it.

Ang- Thanks! I read a few different definitions of what it might be, that was one of them.

Didi- I hear ya.

Wendy- The last thing I wanted was for a dominant to look at my profile and say “oh he’s great, if only he was into cock milking”.

So you’re putting down fetishes because you want women to like you, not because you actually like or are curious about those fetishes? Please tell me you already know what a road to disaster *that* plan is.

Eileen- No, cock milking was the only one where I didn’t know what it meant. All of the others are honest and sincere.

Cock milking: the act of prostate massage when it results in ejaculate essentially oozing from the tip of the cock as if it were being milked. At least that’s how I understand it. 🙂

Gorean slave positions? You know what those are? Well you’re one up on me, honey.

I’m still surprised anyone managed to get past the first twenty pages of that book. Even knowing beforehand that it heads in a BDSM direction, I couldn’t manage it. I was giving myself whiplash from rolling my eyes so hard!

slave positions weren’t invented by gor and well they can be really pretty. A little high protocol for me but then I’m really not into slaves.

I checked my fetlife profile last night and you know how it shows all the updates of your friend list. I saw nothing but a huge list of what ‘unspeakableaxe is into’ 🙂 that’s quite some list you’ve got going there. Reminds me to add some more to my own.

And being open-minded and willing doesn’t make someone greedy or unrealistic in my mind. Just means more options.

Axe, I’ve got to agree with Eileen. You say you’re sincerely interested in stuff, but then you tell me “The last thing I wanted was for a dominant to look at my profile and say “oh he’s great, if only he was into cock milking”.”

Thats sort of putting down stuff to appeal to others, not yourself.

I may be the minority here, but I think your checking of ‘cock milking’ without really knowing what it is, is perfectly fine as long as you’ve decided that whatever it is you would be happy to comply.

It probably sounded harmless compared to checking ‘wanting your fingernails pull out.’

Curious could mean curious to know more and willing to consider trying, as well as curious to try. It all depends on the definition one uses for “curious”.

I don’t see anything wrong with someone marking something as curious as an indication that it’s not a definite “no” and they’d be willing to consider it.

Cock milking is one of my highest keyword hits, and I have no idea what it is or why google thinks my blog is a good resource for it. Well ok, I spend too much time playing with search engines so I understand the latter, but still. I will say, however, that I really never liked those lists. I look for submissive men with geek cred, and figure that once that cultural hurdle is overcome we can find middle ground on fetishes.

First of all, realize that a “fetish” as defined on on FetLife is just a unique, arbitrary string of characters that someone, somewhere, decided to enter into a web form. That’s why FetLife has fetishes like “schoolgirls” and “schoolgirl” and considers them distinct fetishes.

Second, “cock milking” is typically a colloquial form of prostate massage. Note that FetLife also has fetishes for that as well as “prostate milking.”

Third, Eileen’s and Wendy’s comments are exactly why the first thing on my FetLife profile reads:

I took the list of things I’m “into” to mean “things I’ve done and would likely do again.”
I took the list of things I’m “curious about” to mean “things I haven’t done but want to do.”
Of course, that doesn’t mean if an interest isn’t listed, I wouldn’t do it….

Finally, anyone who takes any of these profiles as definitive in any way is stupid, and if they passed up messaging me just because I didn’t have a particular fetish listed I probably wouldn’t want to waste my time reading their email had they sent it to me anyway.

Yeah, what the hell IS cock milking? hahaha Who cares if you marked “curious about” with something youre clueless about. Perhaps you meant “curious about knowing the god damned meaning of”.
Besides, it just shows that youre game for anything!

Ummm…youre curious about ripping off clothes? Just rip your shirt off of yourself right now. Just do it and then take it off of your list. 🙂

Oh, if you decide to try that with another, wear something easily rippable (is that a word?). I was so turned on by this guy once and tried ripping his shirt off of him, but it wasnt like the movies…it kind of just stretched the shirt. haha

@Me

Heee, yeah, nothing in real life is as glamorous as the movies. I had someone try to rip my panties off, he had to go get a scissors. They were entirely too well-constructed to go down that easily. Luckily, having them snipped off was fun too.

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