I’ve been stood up before.
It’s happened more times than I can count and I’m almost used to it. It’s never made me angry before.
What does make me angry is when one of my dominant friends gets stood up. These guys go online and convince a woman they are sincere only to chicken out when they’re faced with the reality of it.
I imagine most sub males who flake out are those who have little or no experience in it. They’ve had fantasices about dominant women for years or maybe they’ve just started exploring. Either way, when they’re faced with their dream actually becoming a reality, they run the other way. Why would they put someone through that? Do they have any idea what they’re missing?
Maybe I’m not understanding the reason behind it. Are they really just flakes? Are they sincere but scared or to they just jerk off to the idea and that’s it?
Of course being stood up is something that shouldn’t happen to anyone. But it makes me furious when it happens to a dominant friend of mine.
These flakes make it harder for the next submissive down the road. I’ve come upon several dominant women that will ask for a tribute just to prove that the submissive isn’t a flake and is really sincere. (granted some use this just to get the tribute but I’m sure there are one or two who think of it as a decent way to weed out the fakes).
It’s the nature of the beast when you’re dealing with people online. I can’t even count how many times I’ve been stood up, it’s almost a surprise when someone I’ve emailed actually does show up. That’s why I prefer to talk to someone on the phone or chat with them before meeting them. Sometimes it’s easier to spot a flake that way.
I don’t know who gets stood up more, dominant women or sub men. When I get stood up I take a few days or weeks to dust myself off the ground and get back on the horse. When a dominant gets stood up she may change her entire perception of all submissive males. It changes it for all of us.
I know one guy in particular that has stood up a friend of mine recently. I’ve seen him at a few events and when I see him again, he’ll get a piece of my mind.