Not Much Of A Slave

I couple of weeks ago I was at a BDSM event, just hanging out with friends, watching people play and enjoying conversations.

I went to the bar to grab another beer and a woman dressed in latex approached me.

At first I was a bit surprised. It’s rare that someone will just start talking to me out of nowhere. It’s possible that this is because I clearly have the strength of ten men and always look so very intimidating.

The conversation went a little like this:

Her-Someone told me you were an excellent slave.

Me-Really? I’m not sure who would have told you that since I’ve never been owned by anyone, but..ok.

Her- Be a good slave and buy me a drink, maybe later I’ll let you worship my feet.

Me- Well, you know, I’m not submissive to just anyone.

Her- I don’t let just anyone worship me.

Me- You’re kind to offer but I’m afraid I’ll need to pass.

Her- You’re not much of a slave are you?

Me- I’m not a slave at all for someone who doesn’t deserve it.

Instead of sounding coy I sounded harsh. It came out meaner than I meant but I was OK with that. I stood there for a minute, waited for my beer and joined my friends.   

I realized that, had she asked me a year ago, I would have bought her that drink, she probably would have ignored me for the rest of the night anyway unless she needed another drink. I wished she had asked differently, maybe I would have made a new friend out of it.

I told my story to another submissive guy at the party and he asked if I could point her out to him. I did and he ran off to go ask if she needed a drink. She gave him her oder and sure enough she ignored him for the rest of the night.

22 Comments

Thats awesome. How you didn’t lower your standards, and didn’t cower (not sure thats the right word) to her demands/standards.

Signs of growth. ;o)

I’m so glad you answered that way, although I understand not wanting to be rude. I was about to type that it’s unbelievable to me that dominant women act that way, but then, dominant men do too. I suppose jerks come in all flavors and kinds. (Even submissive. 😉 )

Blech. See, there’s a difference between dominant and user. Yuck! Sorry you had to deal with that, but yay you answered exactly as she deserved!
*hugs*

She gave him her oder and sure enough she ignored him for the rest of the night.

She gave him her oder and sure enough she ignored him for the rest of the night.

:sighs:

As long as clueless subs continue to do this, then fauxdommes will continue to suck them in.

Good for you for spotting one.

With my lover, I’m definitely the Alpha – physically, emotionally, and mentally. But with strangers, I’m really very shy. I don’t think I’d ever behave that way with someone I didn’t know. Or, at least, didn’t get to know at least a little and feel some sort of mutual spark or chemistry with them (and with clear reciprocal flirting). Being a domme doesn’t mean one gets to be a tool. And what’s the point if it’s not sexy/a turn on for both parties?

Good for you on spotting one that deserves to get away.

lol, I see growth as well. I’m happy for you.

She probably wants you even more now…

You’re so right. She does NOT deserve you. My guess is that she didn’t even know who you were. Don’t worry for one second that you sounded harsh. Eff her. The word “user” has already been mentioned. I’ll use “leech” and move on.

Yay for standing up for yourself!

Damn right. And bollocks to “sounding mean”, the more folk that realise submissives give up control and power of their own free will, to someone who they trust with that power, the better. Silly cow.

As a girl, I don’t really get much in the way of “buy me a drink and worship me” but I have had a number of “kneel bitch!” incidents, which were met with a look.

You’re a submissive for whoever you chose to be, when you chose to be. And that’s what makes being a Domme special as well, that someone has given all of that specifically to you.

well done! she’s obviously an idiot, i’d have much better use for you then a drinks dispenser.

Oh, I’m glad you responded that way. I understand too that you didn’t want to be rude, and I know what you mean when you say it came out meaner than you meant, it sort of sounded like SHE didn’t deserve it when you probably meant people in general… but screw that. If she’s too thick to understand that, as electronic doll said, submissives give up control of their own free will, well then she deserved the harsh words. She sure sounds to me like she just wanted to take advantage.

“She gave him her oder and sure enough she ignored him for the rest of the night.”

I dunno … getting her odor and getting ignored for the rest of the night sounds kinda hot. What, did he get to lick her armpit??

Oh…order … now I get it. 😉

Ya did good Axe!! Ya did good.

There’s a sucker born every minute. It actually takes a bunch to be a dominant. Being in control is more difficult than it looks!

submissive =/= doormat.

also, you’re so iron-clad-intimidating. it’s ridiculous! 🙂

I’m proud of you.

Best Wishes,
Ally

LOL. Very very funny episode. Your response was top-notch and exactly right.

Best regards,

Thomas

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