Laughing Till It hurts

It’s my birthday

She’s cooking for me and trying to open the goat cheese.

I walk closer to help her and she says “Fuck, I hate these easy-open packages.

First I start laughing then she starts laughing…then she kicks me in the junk.

I fall to the ground laughing and yelping in pain at the same time.

“What did you do that for?” I asked still wincing and laughing.

“Because I felt like it”, she smiled.

“Damn that hurt” I giggled.

She, still laughing at what she said and just did puts her foot in front of my lips and say “good, now kiss my foot”.

I kiss.

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Qualification: this is probably going to be unpopular, but so what?

Y’know…whatever fills your twinkie and all that good stuff, but I have to wonder why I see so many reports of play like this when the players are a dominant woman and a submissive man, but almost never do I run across blog posts in which the reverse is true.

Am I just missing a chunk of the blogosphere or is the prevalence of this sort of thing, which (for the record) I totally despise and can’t imagine myself ever participating in–ever–because I dislike it so, so, so much, for no small reason because there are so many posts just like this one out on the blogosphere and which, incidentally, remind me of Ranat’s similar observation, really such a strongly gendered form of play?

Happy Birthday! I’m glad to see you laughing.

Maymay,

I’m a dominant woman. I’m sure I’ve popped a guy in the nuts before in a non-scene context such at Axe describes “just because I could” … but I’m pretty sure that was mostly me feeling out the boundaries of our relationship, trying out expressions of dominance (or “dominance”). Thus far, I’ve yet to find a pair of jeans in this style that fit…though it’s entirely possible one day I will.

FWIW, you yourself say, “Beat me, hurt me, use me, torture me, but do it because you love me.” She may say it’s “because she can” but she CAN because she loves him.

And another thing…

Why, you (Maymay) asks, is this kind of play popular with dommes and not doms? Well, my gut guess — and more as a woman, rather than Queen of the Dominoes — is that were, say, a femsub blog about how her Master backhanded her across the face, or kicked her in the groin for no good reason with a smile, “just because he could” we’re all socialized to domestic abuse in such a way that we code/read/interpret it not as consensual SM but domestic violence. (Interestingly, the only times I’ve ever seen this kind of capricious engagement with a femsub is by a femdom.)

When a man writes of his Mistress doing something like that, I think we (or certainly I) read it as “power exchange” … meaning that he really is in control of this situation, could retaliate/defend himself if he wanted, but he’s consciously “submitting” and thus endorsing his Mistress’ behavior.

In the femsub’s case, of course she’s simply a victim to her Master’s gross abuse of power. There’s no empowerment on her part. How could, why would little ol’ she possibly condone that by submitting to it?

I ain’t sayin’ any of this is right. I’m just sayin’ a possibility why it is.

******
On a slightly separate note:

I totally empathize with your desire to find expressions of BDSM that reflect your personal POV. So much of my practice as a prodomme has been about resisting a LOT of what I see as ridiculous and impractical tropes of female domination, commercial and personal. It’s fucking hard. It’s lonely. And more often than not it feels like I’m being shanked by prodommes, femdoms, submissives, and clients all at once for daring to go off script.

Personally, however, I really, really get my knickers in a twist over judgmental bloggers so anxious to find validation outside themselves because they can’t accept it from within.

But that’s just me. My defense tactic, however, isn’t so much to tell people that they suck or disappoint me or need to change so I can feel better about my kink. Instead I -show- them how I play, what I like, how I feel and think and hope that those with whom my words resonate will find me.

I totally empathize with your desire to find expressions of BDSM that reflect your personal POV. […] Personally, however, I really, really get my knickers in a twist over judgmental bloggers so anxious to find validation outside themselves because they can’t accept it from within. […] My defense tactic, however, isn’t so much to tell people that they suck or disappoint me or need to change so I can feel better about my kink. Instead I -show- them how I play, what I like, how I feel and think and hope that those with whom my words resonate will find me.

I agree.   Even if I fit in that category myself  (which I acknowledge I well might),  I thank you for putting that thought so clearly and succinctly.   Beautifully said.

Haven’t kept up with your blog in a while- so glad to see that things have changed a lot for you in the romance department. Congrats on what sounds like a fabulous connection!

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