Big News And Even Bigger News!

There’s big news and even bigger news.

Over Eileen and Maymay’s blogs, I learned that they had a great idea for a new event here in NYC:


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What: A no-limits sex-positive gender and sexuality unconference.
Why: To inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking, learning, and being inspired by all kinds of sexuality.
When: March, 2009 (exact date yet to be determined)
Where: NYC (We’re still looking for a venue! Can you help? See ‘Get Involved,’ below!)
Who: Everyone
How much: Free (as in beer as well as freedom)


KinkForAll is an ad-hoc gathering born from the desire for people of the kink, queer, sex-positive and related communities to share and learn in an open environment. It is an intense event with discussions, presentations, and interaction from all participants. (It is inspired by the BarCamp community.)

ANYONE WITH SOMETHING TO CONTRIBUTE OR WITH THE DESIRE TO LEARN IS WELCOME AND INVITED TO JOIN. When you attend, be prepared to share with others. When you leave, be prepared to share it with the world.

A KinkForAll is a special kind of gathering because there are no spectators, only participants. Attendees must give a talk or a presentation, help with one, or otherwise volunteer/contribute in some way to support the event. This is called sharing and we like it. All presentations are scheduled the day they happen—there are no pre-scheduled presentations or keynote addresses. The people present at the event will select the presentations they want to see.

Anyone can present, on any topic related to sexuality. You do not necessarily have to teach a new skill or idea. You might share an experience, review a product, or read a poem. The goal is to start a discussion, make connections, and exchange knowledge. Presentations promoting specific commercial products or companies are discouraged.

Learn more about what to expect at

Learn more about the event guidelines at

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We need your help in spreading the word. Please help by participating. Here’s how:

1. Get excited by reading the ideas on
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3. Join the mailing list and introduce yourself by emailing [email protected]

If you have access to a venue, or know someone who has access to a venue, please email the [email protected] mailing list with that information.

Still have questions? Read the Frequently Asked Questions at

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KinkForAll Online

Participate online before the event at your favorite social networking web site.


All primary organizational efforts are being coordinated via the mailing list. Join for free and help turn ideas into realities!

That’s the big news. What’s the bigger news? It immediately struck me that this would mean they would both be coming back to NYC.

See, Eileen had mentioned wanting to beat/torture me before leaving the country about a year ago but left town before it could happen.

I sent her a quick message asking if this meant she’d be coming back to NYC.

The answer was yes. The next thing she mentioned was that she wanted to play with me when she came to town.

Stop the press!


I’m not entirely sure how Eileen playing with you is “big news.” Dominant women wanting to play with submissive men should be a relatively common occurrence that doesn’t deserve a headline. The fact that such play occurrences do garner headlines is exactly what we’re trying to fight against, isn’t it?

Woo-hoo! If the event is free to participants, how will TPTB afford the room/venue hire? [Not expecting you to answer that, LOL]. I’ll go ask them :-). Wish I could afford the air fare & hotel bills to attend :-(.

If the event is free to participants, how will TPTB afford the room/venue hire?

@Xenaclone: Briefly, the answer you’re looking for is cooperation. The longer answer involves things such as wikinomics, and good will towards humankind. Moreover, there really isn’t any limited “powers that be” in this model, so the question itself is hard to answer because it’s actually a bit off-target. 😉 Regardless of where you live, please feel free to join our mailing list to discuss exactly these sorts of things with us.

Talk about “When it rains, it pours…”