I’ve realized that the best thing for me right now is to seek out casual play and just try to expand my experiences. Being in a relationship just isn’t realistic for me right now. I still have so many unanswered questions about myself a that I need to answer before I settle down with someone. Plus……my fear of rejection is a big hurdle to get over as well.
So…for now….just casual. Finding someone for casual play is hard enough. This change in approach feels similar to a guy saying, “Hey instead of trying to find a unicorn who’s holding a winning lottery ticket, I’ll jut buy the winning lottery ticket.”
I had this email from a reader recently:
“….I also wanted to share with you that my favorite dominant partner was a girl I dated for 10+ years. (long story). anyway it started off fairly normal & then I shared what I was into at some point. it took off like a rocket ship after that. I was curious if you had success in that approach? it seems you “let the cat out of the bag” right away. “
I have tried that approach and it really hasn’t worked out. I won’t be trying that again since, frankly, I don’t have time for that.
The last thing I want is to meet someone, really like her and then spill the beans only for it to end up blowing up in my face. Meanwhile I’ve wasted time and money when I could have been out there looking. It’s not fair to either person.
Yes, I let the cat out of the bag early. I’ve mentioned it here before. Sometimes the woman will say “you should have waited to tell me until later in the relationship”. Of course when I do wait until later in the relationship they say, “you should have told me in the beginning”.
Nah, I’ll stay honest and upfront from the beginning.
For now….just casual.
I’ve been in a deep funk the last couple of weeks and trying to pull myself out of that.
Anyone know how to pick winning lottery numbers?