There’s a very common theme among personal ads from dominant women, on craigslist, alt or collarme.
“The more aggresive and dominant you are to the outside world and submissive behind closed doors, the better.”
I didn’t make that up. It’s from an actual ad.
The idea is that they want someone who’s not submissive in their daily life.
I wouldn’t say I’m submissive in my daily life. Occasionally people will even mistake me as being dominant at certain lifestyle events. I’m not a pushover, but I’m not dominant either. Many seem to want an alpha male outside the bedroom and an obedient submissive inside.
It doesn’t take a PHD to understand why.
Many dominant women I’ve talked to like the idea of having a guy who’s the stereotype alpha male but is a total puppy to them and them alone. The thought of being the only person that can bring that out of them is a huge turn on for them.
It’s the contrast that turns them on. Probably the same way that the idea of a sweet and innocent type totally beating the hell out of me turns me on, but it turns me on just as much as the idea of an alpha woman doing the same. The difference is you’ll never catch me saying that it’s even better if you’re the sweet and innocent type.
I have a feeling that many dominant women like the idea of an alpha male submitting to them because it’s proof of their power. It shows that they are dominant. Having a submissive who is submissive in his daily life submit to you isn’t as big of a deal I suppose.
Maybe I’m wrong.
I’ve overheard dominant women talking about the dominant men they’d love to control, yet I’ve never overheard any talking about the submissive men they’d like to control. It must be the idea of a challenge.
I have a little info that may not be news to any of you Dommes out there:
I don’t know a single dominant guy that wouldn’t submit to someone. I’ve talked to many dominant guys that would love to submit to a few of my friends because they know it’s the only way they could be with them. It’s not that big of a challenge really.
I, however, have never needed to use a safeword.
That’s a challenge isn’t it?
Maybe a little?