Note: I’ve updated the layout of my little spot on web. I think this may look a bit more…. friendly. Thoughts?
I was recently asked to describe my skills as a submissive.
I really didn’t know what she meant at first and she went on to ask how I’ve been trained. I believe she mentioned bootblacking and formal tea service as examples. I have no training in either of these.
I’ve never meet a Domme that specifically mentioned these as desirable qualities in a submissive male but I can imagine how they might be.
This brings up an observation on what a Domme in the scene is looking for versus one who isn’t in the scene.
A Domme who isn’t into going to events and socializing with others in the lifestyle may not have any interest in a bootblack or someone who knows how to serve tea properly. In fact, I mentioned bootblacking to a Domme friend who goes out of her way to avoid the scene and she had no clue what I meant by it.
I’ve only seen a bootblack in action on a few occasions and have never heard a woman say “oh if only I could have my boots shined right now”.
But just because I haven’t heard it doesn’t mean no one has ever said it.
How important are these kinds of skills to dominant women? Has there ever been a Domme that said, “oh he’s cute and tall and eager to please…but he doesn’t know the first thing about tea service so I’ll send him back”.
I’ve heard of formal tea serving classes. I don’t imagine they’re too expensive. Not as cheap as the beer serving classes though.
So what skills do I have as a submissive? I can’t think of any lifestyle specific skills.
But I can clean a mean tub.