It’s sad when this happens, I found a blog written by a submissive and his last post was in 2006.
It says simply:
“No more updates will be appearing for the forseeable future. This part of my life is over.“
Many have done this, I know of a number of submissive men who just give up. I just learned that a friend of mine has given up and decided to date vanilla. His thought process is “It’s better to be vanilla than alone”.
I know I’ve been tempted and I have taken breaks.
Here’s how it happens every time I take a break:
-Cancel paid memberships to kink dating sites.
-Only attending events that friends are going to and only going to socialize.
-Start going on vanilla dates.
-Shit my pants over how easy it is to get vanilla dates.
-Become bored with vanilla dates and start confessing my kinky interests.
-Realize vanilla women aren’t comfortable with kinky guys.
-Stop going on vanilla dates.
The guy I know who recently went vanilla does like the woman he’s with, he’s attracted to her and they have great chemistry. The problem is that he doesn’t feel fulfilled.
Isn’t he being dishonest by not telling her?
I don’t think it’s fair to vanilla women unless the submissive is sure that his desire to submit wont make him look for it elsewhere and potentially ruin that relationship.
Is it dishonest not to tell someone a deep dark secret like being submissive just because you’re worried that she’ll leave you?
On the other hand, I know of a few submissive men who did give up looking for a dominant woman and went vanilla. If you ask them they say they love their wives but they do miss submitting.
Are they settling?
Or are they just compromising with reality?