Yeah, as if I don’t express myself enough right? A blog, a podcast and now I’ve been asked to take part in a discussion.
Don’t worry, I won’t be yapping alone. A few other people have been asked to be in the TES discussion on June 23rd as well.
Here’s the description: The 30-40 Wasteland: “The BDSM community doesn’t lack for members of the older set. TNG too thrives. But what happened to our members between 30 and 40 (give/take a couple of years)? Is there a reason that this population is scarce and what can we do to bring them out more? Join us for a discussion and hopefully suggestions for a solution.”
Yikes, that’s a big topic. The problem is that I could blabber on and on about why this is true and still not give you the reason why.
I really have no clue. I know that I only go to a few events these days. Certainly fewer than I used to. Is it because I only see the same people over and over and while I like most of them, I’m looking to meet new people? Is it because most of the women into BDSM won’t ever consider themselves in “the scene”? Has the internet made it easier to meet people without needing to go to a club or event?
One theory I’ve heard is that people will explore in their 20’s, settle down in their 30’s, then get divorced and want to explore again in their 40’s.
I have no clue but if you could leave a comment or shoot me an email with your theory I’d love it. The more the merrier, maybe I’ll bring up your comment at the discussion.
If you can make it to the discussion please say hi. This will only be the 2nd time I’ve been on stage with a group of people as part of a discussion. I have a tendency to feel like I need to entertain and therefore make an ass out of myself.
I’ll try to curb that desire.