Events

Sade and I Will Be At The NYC Kinky Living Workshop

Sade and I have been asked to participate at this great event once again.   It’s our third time!  We hope you can join us:

Fetlife Event Link

May 26-27: Creating and Living Positive BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships“
A Special Weekend Workshop with Eric Pride and Sir Stephen”

When: Saturday, May 26, 2012 ·10:00 AM –Sunday, May 27, 2012 · 4:00 PM

Where: NYCKL Studios (location sent upon registration)

$95 until May 1, thereafter $120

This two-day workshop is for individuals, couples and families who identify with a kinky or BDSM lifestyle and desire to incorporate it into their daily lives – irrespective of gender identity, sexuality or kink interests. It is intended for anyone who wants to start a new relationship, take an existing one to the next level, or simply wants to learn more about alternative lifestyle relationships.

Major topics include:

  • Finding and meeting potential partners in the scene
  • Building lifestyle relationships that lead to the greatest likelihood of long-term success
  • Keeping the “magic” in our relationships for the long-term
  • Fulfilling our and our partners sexual, S&M and kinky needs
  • What do we mean by “good communication”? Building effective communication tools and skills
  • Dealing with common lifestyle related issues, and successfully navigating conflicts in alternative lifestyle relationship

Instructors:
This workshop series is brought to New York City by Eric Pride (click for bio) and Sir Stephen (click for bio), both having their own unique lifestyle households. The event is hosted by NYCKL Studios and NYC Kinky Living.

The workshop has been offered since October in 2010 in New York City, and has been featured in Time Out New York (click for article).

D/s Lifestyle Workshop May 28th-29th

My friends Eric Pride and Sir Sir Stephen are putting on another great event for those of you who are interested in either starting or enhancing a D/s relationship.

It’s a two-day event that is being offered at cost. Any profits will be donated to lifestyle organizations and causes.   It’ll be held in the ever-awesome Glint Studio (location sent upon registration), If you haven’t seen the Glint Studio yet you don’t know what you’re missing.

They’re packing a lot of information in just two days and there’s limited space so you really should get your tickets ASAP. Details below:

Creating and Living Positive BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships – A Special Weekend Workshop in New York City, May 28-29, 2011

This two-day workshop is for individuals, couples and families who identify with a kinky or BDSM lifestyle and desire to incorporate it into their daily lives – irrespective of gender identity, sexuality or kink interests. It is intended for anyone who wants to start a new relationship, take an existing one to the next level, or simply wants to learn more about alternative lifestyle relationships.
Major topics include:
  • Finding unique and exciting partners; establishing “strong-bond” relationship habits
  • Identifying the particular advantages/responsibilities that lead to the greatest likelihood of long-term success
  • Maintaining and deepening mutual interest in your current healthy lifestyle relationships using BDSM, sex, and kink
  • Utilizing effective communication tools and skills to address problem resolution, powerful emotions and other complicated BDSM-related concerns as they arise
The series culminates with a “without-a-safety-net” Q&A panel discussion featuring several proven lifestyle couples/families in various relationship structures. For detailed workshop schedule, see below.
Where:
Location sent upon registration (in New York City)
When:
Saturday, May 28, from 10 AM to 5:30 PM
Sunday, May 29, from 10 AM to 3 PM
Participants are also invited to attend a private play party on Saturday evening from 7 PM
Registration:
$95 (early registration discount – you need to register before May 1); $120 (from May 1). Class size is limited… early registration is strongly recommended.

To register click here

The registration fee includes meals (lunches and refreshments on Saturday and Sunday), detailed workshop handouts and workbooks, and the private play party on Saturday evening.
Instructors:
This workshop series is brought to New York City by Eric Pride (click for bio) and Sir Stephen (click for bio), both having their own unique lifestyle households. The event is hosted by GLINT Studio and NYC Kinky Living.
The workshop was first offered as a weekend series throughout October last year in New York City. It was well-attended and received great reviews by Time Out New York (click for article) and workshop participants:
“Within the same week of attending the class with my partner, I noticed many of our issues resolving in a non-confrontational manner…”
“After a very informative class, right at the end Sir Stephen made a final comment that was very insightful for me dealing with my “relationship status”. It was something I had been struggling to find the words for, but his knowledgeable point of view and real life practices made things fall into place.”
“I changed my weekend plans just so I could attend the next lecture!”
Workshop Schedule
Saturday (10A M – 5:30 PM)
  • Crucial First Steps: Creating Foundations for Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships
  • Turning the “Magic Key”: Maintaining Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships and Putting It All Together
  • Q&A
Sunday (10 AM – 3:00 PM)
  • Not Just Roses: Successful Problem Resolution in BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships
  • Panel Discussion: BDSM Lifestyle Couples Share Their Relationship Experiences
  • Q&A
Classes do not follow the traditional lecture style format. Instead, they are highly interactive and hands-on. Both days allow plenty of time for Q&A. Participants receive detailed course materials and workbooks.
For detailed descriptions of each topic see below.
Crucial First Steps: Establishing & Creating Foundations for Healthy BDSM Lifestyle RelationshipsThis class provides participants with practical information, skills and tools that contribute to establishing and creating BDSM lifestyle relationships with the greatest likelihood of long-term success. We will discuss topics such as:
  • How to begin a relationship (dating)
  • How to build a relationship in ways that will provide the greatest likelihood of long-term success
  • Identifying those elements which make lifestyle relationships unique
  • Distinctive advantages – and responsibilities – that accrue to lifestyle relationships
  • Basic safety issues of the lifestyle
Turning the “Magic Key”: Maintaining Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships
How do we keep the “magic” in our relationships long-term? What tools are available to assist in the maintenance and deepening of healthy and productive lifestyle relationships? In this class we explore and examine techniques and tools that can be used to maintain successful lifestyle relationships over time. This class will cover topics such as:
  • Establishing and refining communication skills
  • How to further deepen our relationships
  • How to keep them fresh and interesting
  • How to fulfill our and our partner(s) sexual, BDSM and kinky needs
Not Just Roses: Successful Problem Resolution in BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships
How do our alternative relationships differ & compare to “vanilla” ones? Everyday relationships are hard enough to navigate, when you add kink into the mix, it can become more complicated.
This class examines the pitfalls (and solutions) that can occur in BDSM and other kinky relationships. We develop and discuss effective ways in which to address and resolve relationship problems, including topics such as:
  • Dealing with and addressing emotions
  • Steps to successful problem resolution
  • Common issues and problems in alternative and BDSM lifestyle relationships
  • Relationship “contracts”
  • Open, multilateral, and poly relationships
  • How to deal with jealousy
Whether you are currently in or desire to be in a relationship, this class can help you build and maintain happy and long-term bonds.
Panel Discussion: BDSM Lifestyle Couples Share Their Relationship Experiences
The panel discussion aims to explore, compare and contrast the BDSM lifestyle relationships such as Daddy/girl, Mommy/girl, Daddy/boy, D/s and M/s, poly and “weekend warriors”. It will be a unique opportunity to learn from the couples/families represented on the panel as they openly – and without safety net – share their experiences and talk about:
  • How they built and deepened their relationships
  • Their most useful tools for maintaining their relationships
  • Their kinks, BDSM and sexual interaction
  • How they worked their way through difficulties in their relationships
  • . . . and much more!

 

 

Masks

We had planned to go to the event a week or so beforehand, but this time she said there would be a bit of a twist.  She wanted us to wear masks the entire time and not be our usual social selves.  Between the two of us we know a decent number of people at public events so we usually spend a majority of the time socializing rather than playing.

This time was going to be different.  This time she only wanted to play.

We hopped off the subway and when we were about a block away we slipped our masks on.  Both masks covered our faces enough that it would be nearly impossible to tell who we were less you knew our eyes and lips terribly well.

A few people looked, trying to scope us out as we walked through to the back.  One close friend of ours recognized us right away but She put her finger to her lips and with a wink the friend knew that we weren’t there to visit. Maybe they recognized one of the items she was wearing– or as I suspect they might have recognized the glint in her eyes.

We found a spot next to the dance floor. Most events in New York take place in bars that have been temporarily converted to a kinky space.  You’ll see a spanking bench in the middle of a dance floor, a St Andrews cross next to the bar and other varieties of kinky equipment here and there, but, for the most part- it’s still a bar. We were there for only a few minutes when she motioned for me to climb over her knee before proceeding to give me the single longest spanking of my life.

Two relentless hours shifting rhythmically between stinging open palms and brutal paddles.  Most of the time was spent over her knee, but now and then she’d force me to wobbly feet, bracing me against the bench or the wall-whichever position of supplication currently amused her most.

It was never ending.  People milled around us was in awe, murmuring their appreciation while a few people approached to offer her fresh glasses of ice water (maybe they were worried she’d get thirsty and stop– or maybe they were hoping they could be next on the receiving end of her hand). At times it would get so intense that my knees would buckle and I’d fall to the floor.  She’d give me a few minutes to recover but it wouldn’t be long before she’d put me back in whatever position she wanted me in.

By the end I was incoherent, drooling, and raw.  She held me until I was able to stand up and limp out the door.  I checked the time and it had been over two hours since we arrived. Two long hours getting my ass beat. Only a few minutes had been spent doing anything but.

She was a machine and my ass was tender for days afterwards.

The next day a friend emailed me asking me why we didn’t go to the party.   I told her we were too busy.

Maybe we’ll bring out the masks again someday soon.

Our Trip To Sanity

Sade and I ended up going to the Rally to Restore Sanity/Rally to Keep Fear Alive this weekend.    We woke up at the crack of ass, headed to Citi Field to grab one of the 200 free busses proveded by the Huffington Post (Thanks Arianna!!).

We arrived in DC and knew it was going to be huge by the number of people riding the metro (fun fact: Saturday was the busiest Saturday the metro has ever recorded).

We didn’t get to walk around too much, it was packed so tightly that it took us about a half an hour just to walk a few feet.  Thankfully everyone was very friendly (sane) and in good spirits.

We were so far back that we could barely hear Stewart and Colbert but that didn’t seem to matter as much as the fact that we were taking part in something.

Will the fact that so many people arrived to support a calmer and more thoughtful exchange of ideas actually change anything?

Probably not….but we can hope.

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Four Lifestyle Relationship Workshops In October!

If you’ve ever been curious about or are currently in a lifestyle relationship, you’ll want to check out a few workshops in October.

Presented by Sir Eric and Sir Stephen, these workshops will cover a wide range of areas in living in a D/s relationship.

It’s hosted by a great new group, NYC Kinky Living, join the Fetlife group here.

I’ve been lucky enough to catch presentations by both Sir Eric and Sir Stephen in the past and I can’t begin to express how amazing they have been.  I’ve gone to two presentations by Sir Eric this year and both have been outstanding (bonus points when Sir Eric’s wife Lady Christie is presenting with him, rumor has it she may be attending one of the workshops too though I can’t confirm this since the restraining order prevents me from asking her directly).

Sade and I have even been asked to partake in the panel discussion on the 30th.

Tip:  Since you read this blog, you know what I know and you know what I don’t know, please only ask questions that I know the answer to or can at least sound clever coming up with a witty reply.  Oh and if you can ask a question like “Sade, how great is it to own such an incredible slave like Axe?  His charm, wit and sexual skills are legendary and known throughout the land”. It will really make me look good.

Mark your calendars, they will all be held a the LGBT center in NYC.

Click on the descriptions to be taken to the Fetlife event page for each.

October 9 – Crucial First Steps: Creating Foundations for Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships, 1pm-3.30pm

October 17 – Turning the “Magic Key”: Maintaining Healthy BDSM Lifestyle Relationships and Putting It All Together, 1pm-3.30pm

October 23 – Not Just Roses: Tools for Successful Problem Resolution, 1pm-3.30pm

October 30 – Panel Discussion: BDSM Lifestyle Couples Share Their Relationship Experiences, 1pm-3.30pm

Each workshop is $17 if you buy in advance or $20 at the door or you can pay $60 in advance for all four workshops.