Submitting To A Republican: A Hard Limit?

Over a year ago I met a woman at BYTE here in NYC, I don’t even remember how we started talking but we did.

She was very attractive, arguably one of the most physically attractive woman in the room. We were joking, she got my humor and we were really clicking but I needed to wake up early (damn work-night events). We exchanged emails and eventually decided to meet for drinks.

When I saw her in the bar I was taken back by how much better she looked in street clothes than she did in fetish wear.

We sat, talked about the lifestyle and somehow got on the subject of politics.

Then it happened. She revealed something about herself scarier than if she had said she was into forced-bi.

She was a Republican.

Not just any kind of republican, but the kind that doesn’t know why she’s a republican. She just repeated talking points she had heard on Fox News or some conservative radio show.

She quickly became unattractive.

Don’t get me wrong, I have Republican friends. Friends I love dearly. But they actually have thought and reason behind why they are who they are.

She was just a talking point repeater. There was no thought or feeling behind what she wanted and every reason she had was a greedy one.

She asked why I was a liberal and when I answered “empathy” she looked like a deer in the headlights.

She lost her attractiveness quickly after that.

So could I ever submit to a member of the GOP? Possibly. If they were the kind who actually thought about their beliefs and weren’t just blabbering on something they heard from a guy on the radio.

I think this goes back to a big part of what it takes for me to submit to someone emotionally. Respect.

I can’t respect someone who watches someone on TV spouting their agenda and assumes that their opinion is fact.

However, it could make for an interesting scene or two:

-She tries to beat me until I denounce the values of universal health care.

-Ties me up with rope she stole from Haliburton.

-Refuses to let me go down on her until I come up with 3 positive things Ronald Regan did.

Ok…maybe it’s not a hard limit. But it sure would be difficult.

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Quitting

It’s sad when this happens, I found a blog written by a submissive and his last post was in 2006.

It says simply:

No more updates will be appearing for the forseeable future. This part of my life is over.

Many have done this, I know of a number of submissive men who just give up. I just learned that a friend of mine has given up and decided to date vanilla. His thought process is “It’s better to be vanilla than alone”.

I know I’ve been tempted and I have taken breaks.

Here’s how it happens every time I take a break:

-Cancel paid memberships to kink dating sites.

-Only attending events that friends are going to and only going to socialize.

-Start going on vanilla dates.

-Shit my pants over how easy it is to get vanilla dates.

-Clean pants.

-Become bored with vanilla dates and start confessing my kinky interests.

-Realize vanilla women aren’t comfortable with kinky guys.

-Stop going on vanilla dates.

The guy I know who recently went vanilla does like the woman he’s with, he’s attracted to her and they have great chemistry. The problem is that he doesn’t feel fulfilled.

Isn’t he being dishonest by not telling her?

I don’t think it’s fair to vanilla women unless the submissive is sure that his desire to submit wont make him look for it elsewhere and potentially ruin that relationship.

Is it dishonest not to tell someone a deep dark secret like being submissive just because you’re worried that she’ll leave you?

On the other hand, I know of a few submissive men who did give up looking for a dominant woman and went vanilla. If you ask them they say they love their wives but they do miss submitting.

Are they settling?

Giving up?

Or are they just compromising with reality?

Found Femdom: Spinal Tap

Yeah I know, the guys from Spinal tap (one of the UK’s loudest bands) are singing about dominating a woman BUT, the video features a dominant women. So….yeah.

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RCXwy0krNs

Dominant Triggers

A while ago I wrote about some of my physical submissive triggers.

Of course these triggers don’t mean a thing if a woman doesn’t want to dominate me in the first place.

Debauchette recently wrote about someone she knows who brings out the dominance in women.

“Andrew had the tendancey to bring out the dominant side in women. He certainly brings out all of my own dominant impulses”.

I suppose this makes sense. There are qualities a woman can have that make me want to submit to her, make it impossible for me not to want to please her.

This begs (and I do mean begs) the question: What aspects of a guy make you want to tear into him?

I know a number of women who are attracted to very vanilla guys, the thought of corrupting them turns them on. Others like to dominate aggressive guys in order to put them in their place. Both of those examples are the opposite of who I am.

It would be nice if a potentially dominant woman had a road sign on her head so I could know how to navigate to bring that out of her.

“OK, if I take a right turn at being aloof and a left at being cocky you’ll want to fuck me until we pass out, BUT if I head south on shy avenue you’ll want to do that and fuck me with a strap-on after whipping me to tears.”

So what does it for you? What brings out your dominance?

Someone Shy? Coy? Eager To Please? An alpha male you want to put in his place?